Hi there, I was wondering what other women’s husbands are really like when it comes to engaging with you, engaging with your children etc.
The reason I ask is my husband of 16 years is completely detached emotionally from me and our children.
I have just returned from a 4 day stay in hospital with our youngest. She has been diagnosed with a chronic illness. While she was in hospital she underwent a huge amount of tests which at times she found very distressing. As it was for me to see her so upset. I only heard from my husband once a day and that was when I contacted him to update him on what was going on. I didn’t get a single text to see how I was feeling or how I my daughter was coping. When we got home, I’m exhausted. The house is a mess and nothing has been done.
When we are home, most of the time he just sits and watches TV or is on his phone, he never does anything with the kids. If we do anything as a family he spends his time watching videos on YouTube.
He doesn’t help with bedtime either, I will brush the kids teeth, get them ready for bed, he will come upstairs once I’ve done all the “work” to say good night. We alternate kids for a bedtime story, except he doesn’t read to them, they watch videos on his phone, or search up toys to buy.
I would love to know what it’s like for people behind closed doors as I know people can be good at keeping up appearances to others. Is it normal for men to not be any support emotionally and to essentially neglect our children’s needs?