If you never thought you'd have a ONS, and did anyway... was it ok?

[FarTooOldforTikTok]

I've never had sex and I'm so fed up of it. I know it sounds stupid and it should be that big a deal, but I feel like it's a millstone around my neck or a flashing light above my head.

I'm 28

I never meant to wait this long. I'm shy and more homebirdy than attractive, and I thought/hoped that I'd meet someone irl. I never thought it was more likely for a bloody global pandemic to happen than to find a boyfriend!

I've tried apps but it's always just been disastrous.

It's probably a waste of time considering it because no (sane) man has ever been interested, but would you just say fuck it, get it over and done with?

Have you tried talking to your female friends about this? Do they have any brothers or friends who are nice guys that might be possibilities?

Honestly, this is an insane idea. The OP already feels awkward and anomalous for being a virgin at 28 (there's no reason why she should, no, but I'm not going to deny her feelings, which are clearly strong). How can anyone think it's a good idea to advertise the fact to her friends, and have them produce a friends or brother to 'help'?

I assume that part of the appeal of a ONS for the OP is that it would be with someone she didn't already know, wasn't going to see again at parties and weddings for the rest of her life, and that losing her virginity would be her own experience, and not involve having to be nice to Sandra's brother Mark and let him down light if he wants to see her again and she doesn't fancy it?

Stop saying it only exists in chick flicks ladies, I did it myself I was only 18 though, the guy was older but I am left with fond memories of those times and I was and still am grateful to him for how he treated me. It was a very pleasant experience not awkward or anything when I meet someone else he let me go. You just have to find the right guy!

Also, nothing porn about it, what the hell, where this came from?

I assume that part of the appeal of a ONS for the OP is that it would be with someone she didn't already know, wasn't going to see again at parties and weddings for the rest of her life

Yes, this, so much. My friends don’t offer to set me up and I’m fine with that. I know they talk about men they’ve slept with and I’d rather that all happens in a completely different sphere!

Yes, once, and I felt entirely in control and he was a lovely chap. Very glad to do it once, and once was enough.

For the first time? Would really want to make sure he's a nice guy and also had a bit of experience.