He made a crude joke about colleague

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My DP has been sporting a lockdown beard and yesterday shaved it off but left a moustache on for the day, as he thought it was funny.

He said that he had to go and wipe TMI alert the ‘pussy juice’ off his moustache. I asked him what on earth he was talking about and he repeated what he said and added ‘you know from Sarah Smith’ (not her real name).

I am majorly unimpressed about this so called joke. He thinks that I am having a ‘sense of humour failure’

This joke has made me feel sick when I look at him. Should I just let it go though?

Jokes are funny. What he said is vile and totally disrespectful to you and that woman. Get rid.

Sexist. Yuck.

Ewwwww!

How is that a joke?!?! That’s gross.

That's... so inappropriate AND DISRESPECTFUL 😑😑. And I'm quite laid back. I wouldn't be impressed either tbh. Imagine you said something about a colleague. Or one of his mates.. "oh I have to get some mouthwash to wash the taste of --- 's cock out of my mouth!" ..

That's an unpleasant and bizarre thing to say.

He sounds nasty. LTB.

LTB.
He should only make jokes you find funny.

Ugh, he's disgusting. That poor woman, too - imagine your colleague talking about you like that.

I think it's funny. But i also think he fancies her. There are a lot of jokes on how SOME women fancy men with beards and how it makes them swoon. The fact he named a specific woman means he thinks shes tasty.. unless shes been the butt of the office?
I cant imagine your dh would say this out of the blue, he would be the type to make this sort of jokes... because its a certain type of humour in my opinion.

I think there must be more to it
. Like you're feeling extra jealous or insecure or you heard something about this sarah..?

Sarah Smith is a colleague? That’s just fucking weird.

He is the type to make this sort of joke. I have asked him a number of times now not to speak about other women like this and he does it over and over again.

Sarah smith is a colleague

Odd odd odd

He sounds gross
And you asking this - peculiar.

So you’re how going to go back to him and say “on the basis of a mumsnet thread, what you said yesterday was appalling?”

How the heck couldn’t you stop yourself immediately responding?

I did challenge him immediately. He maintains that I am overeacting.

Why is he talking about her in particular? That's fucking weird and what he said was disgusting. No way would I be with my partner if he spoke like that.

Grim

I guess it depends if you want to go through your life being told you're over reacting to every vile thing he says and having your feelings shat all over.

You know he talks about you like that to his mates, right?

You've asked him to stop speaking about other women like this.. and he's still doing it???? 😑😑. Nope. Genuinely how would he feel if you made those comments? I'm curious.

I think it's funny.

@Jajarolo I genuinely don't get what's funny about it. Can you explain it to me please?

I'd just have thought 'eh?' and thought the person didn't have much respect for women.

Your with someone who regularly talks like this?

I find that so baffling! To actually share a home, a bed, bodily fluids - with someone like this

Grim, dont acknowledge this twattish behaviour anymore . He thinks he is being spectacularly amusing, dont give him the satisfaction of a reaction.

you’re

Bleugh

You are not over reacting OP. It shows a total lack of manners or class and it isn’t funny