Parallel parenting and contact

[Parenting1]

Exp is asking to have dc every weekend from Friday to Sunday. He lives 45 miles away, my issue with this is when dc is in school they won't be able to spend time with me, their extended family on my side or school friends. I offered Friday - Monday but he can't drop DC back on the Monday. How likely is a court to offer every weekend?

Also in regards to parallel parenting, exp constantly harassed me and been abusive, it affected my mental health, even seeing his name gives me anxiety. So I got a family member to send and deal with all emails for me, hand overs, her well being etc unless it's an emergency. Am I being unreasonable in having a third party deal with communication? Can court make me be the one doing the communication?

Don't agree to every weekend at all! Every weekend is completely unfair, it leaves you with all the working/school days and gives him all their leisure time. Don't do it.

Offer something else instead, such as every other weekend and a evening in the week, and half the school holidays. As long as you're offering something reasonable, you should be OK.

45 miles away is not particularly far.

Offer in writing eow and a day in the week overnight.. His loss if he doesn't take up your offer. He won't get every week end. I lived 40 miles away from exh and managed stupid miles every week until a judge suggested better time shared but I still did the travel as I moved.