DP has a lot of mood swings and odd changes in behaviour for no real reason, he says he’s depressed but refuses to get help. I think it could be something more than depression, I’ve suffered with depression and anxiety after DC2 and it never made me behave like an arsehole.
He can go from being perfectly fine. Then out of no where he’s like his arse for no reason, won’t speak to me. Snaps at me when I do try and speak to him. Won’t bother with the children spends most of his day just trying to get away from all of us. If I ask what’s wrong or if I’ve done anything he’ll answer with something like ‘well what could you have possibly done?’ In a snappy tone. Most of the time I’ve no fucking idea what I’ve done so I just keep my mouth shut. I find myself walking on egg shells around him quite a lot to avoid these outbursts. I have tried talking about it a few times and he just says ‘it’s okay we just don’t communicate’ and I don’t think it’s the case I try speaking to him he just ignores me.
His behaviour has effected our sex life for a long time and he won’t have any of it. He can go all day barely speaking to me, leaving rooms when I come in and practically ignoring the kids then when we go to bed he expects me to be in the mood. Then his mood gets even worse when I’m not. When we try and discuss our sex life or lack of, he seems to thinks it’s a me problem not an us problem and won’t accept that his behaviour plays a factor. I’ve tried pointing it out to him and saying ‘oh are you only being nice to me because you want sex’ in a jokey type way and he kicks off, he’ll say oh just forget it.
The kids don’t seem to notice his moods as far as I can tell anyway, he’s not the most hands on at the best of times. He works full time and I’m a SAHM, he gets in too late to spend time with them on a night he only just makes bedtime and then on a weekend he can’t be arsed either. He only seems happy when he’s on his own upstairs where he can lay around on his phone.
I’m finding it harder and harder to cope with, hes very dependent on me for everything, can’t do anything for his self, can’t cook can’t wash his own clothes nothing. In his mind I’m fully responsible for him, if he hasn’t eaten all day he’ll try and make me feel bad about it. I don’t, I have 2 children that I prepare 3 meals a day for I don’t think I need to be responsible for feeding him aswell. Especially when he doesn’t even acknowledge my presence.
I think I’m just having a rant here really, has anyone got the same? What do you do to make them realise how much of a wanker their being?