Hi all,
This is a highly sensitive issue I know and I’m not looking for opinions on the topic or to spark any confrontation between people, I just need to know if you think I’m being unreasonable in the discussions I’ve had with my partner.
I am fairly well read on the current situation and firmly support Black Lives Matter. He isn’t and is adamant that “they’ve phrased it wrong” and is in the camp that believes it should be All Lives Matter.
I’ve asked him what he agrees with and what he doesn’t but he can’t really explain and he openly admits to not being informed on the situation but that it’s his opinion so he should be allowed it. On the one hand he says it is awful what happened and he thinks black lives are important but then he says “what about me? I’m not happy with my job. I’ve got hardships” and he doesn’t seem to get the point.
We’ve tried talking and I honestly hoped we could have a grown up chat but instead he raises his voice, gets worked up, and says he’s not interested.
He’s also the one to raise it as a topic of conversation, not me, I know we have differing views and having tried to talk previously I know it’s likely to end in an argument.
We fell out last night and now this morning we haven’t really spoken to each other. To me the issue between us is more than BLM, it’s a sign that we see the world very differently.
Am I being unreasonable for hoping we could talk about what’s going on in the world even if we see it from 2 different standpoints?
Would you be concerned about his reaction and attitudes to the current situation?
Thank you and I hope it’s ok to ask the question about how you’d handle differing views in a relationship.