Patronising husband?

[Railingsohno]

Am I overreacting here?

We were having a chat about a few books I loved when I was younger . He then said “It saddens me that you don’t read any more”. It’s true I don’t read much fiction these days. I mainly go on my phone but I read blogs/news items/ Mumsnet/twitter/Instagram etc... so am pretty well informed and quite politically minded. I do read but not nearly as much as I used to.

I am so annoyed by that comment. He has history for being a bit patronising. I quite often have to say “I’m not your 4th child you know”, “I am a fully functioning adult you know”. Like he checks I’ve got my coat etc... sometimes when we go out. I’d say it usually comes because he likes looking after us all but this felt really bloody annoying.

I got really pissed off and probably then defensively laid into him about his lack of engagement on political issues.

Was I wrong? Needless to say he hasn’t apologised. Sorry is the hardest word here

I think you did well to have the conversation and really put your point across - he can't now act wounded and surprised if you tell him that you are disappointed with his behaviour!

To be honest, there were one or two points that I thought rang slight alarm bells. You being "black and white" is not really a compliment! He seems to be saying that you have a simple way of looking at things while he is a bit more sophisticated in his viewpoint. Also - the policing his behaviour thing. Ridiculous. You are not asking him to "police his behaviour", you are just asking him to treat you with respect.