Would you say you have a deep connection with your DP/DH?

[lovelocks]

Is having a deep connection in a relationship important?

I think it is. I don’t although I think we used to before the kids came along

Yes. Ours is souls deep. It keeps us afloat. Especially as the kids exhaust us!

Yes, it's kept us happily married for 30 years.

Yeah, but you can't say you're happy without being flamed.

Not really no

On some stuff I suppose

I think it is. Especially if you want longevity.

I think it's paramount. If your spouse isn't your closest confidant, I see no point in being married.

Depends what you mean exactly. Deep connection = deep trust then yes. But sadly I rarely/hardly feel the spark/chemistry/connection at a spiritual level.

Mmmm we're partners, parents, friends, and very very happy. We laugh a lot, share jokes, parent really well, and talk through stuff.

But in terms of my soul mate no way, no spark, lust, and he certainly doesn't grab me on an intellectual or emotional level. There is not and never has been that fire or need for him. I do love him very much but I also recognise I would be happy without him. Not that I want to be, really is a lovely person and we have a great family

Absolutely. I just feel like he ‘knows’ me. I don’t believe in ‘soulmates’ as a concept, but something feels very deeply connected with him.

@loopylindazdaughter

Do you ever think about being with someone who is you soulmate and someone with whom you share a spark?

I’ve started a thread called housemate style marriage that kind of asks this.

No, I can't say we do. However, he balances me out, the ying to my yang so to speak. On the surface of it we get on well most the time, care about each other, work well as a team and we are happy.

As far as a deeper connection, sadly anyone I've had that with has not gone well, but I'm a trauma survivor with attachment issues so that probably explains why!

Yes, very much so.

Yes, my husband is my best friend we have same interests and think the same. We trust eachother and adore one another. I think its important. When the kids were younger we sometimes took eachother for granted.

Yes, it was pretty much instant, 33 years ago. That’s how we knew, it just felt different to both of us than any previous relationship. A deep understanding.

On most levels, but I think on others I more than he, need to keep things separate. (I am an introvert and he is an extrovert). Mostly this works, but sometimes this causes a lot of tension and it’s hard to resolve because it was never spelled out from the beginning.

I think so. My current partner and I have a very deep underlying connection & attraction. There’s an easy, deep trust between us, and we fancy each other whatever we both look like or whatever else is going on. Don’t believe in soulmates, but the connection we have goes v deep, and emotionally we complement each other well.

In some ways we’re less compatible (an example is I enjoy talking about quite abstract stuff, while his interests are more practical) which is actually more frustrating in some ways - I know the connection we have is unusual to find so I accept some areas of incompatibility that I might not otherwise.

Definitely, he knows me better than I know myself sometimes!

More so in recent years. He's opened up emotionally after a breakdown and now we have a very strong connection.

Me and my DH have this weird deep connection that I've never experienced with anyone else. When we first met we both felt we recognised and knew each other. We have always been able to read each other's minds, we say what the other was just about to say or was thinking, we always pick the phone up to each other at the same time, listen to the same song at the same time when we're apart, say and do things at the same time. Our minds and thought processes seem to be completely in sync, we even mirror the way we sit and stand without thinking. I don't always agree with him or even like him sometimes but I can't imagine him not being in my life.

Deep emotional connection yes. He is my best friend, we talk about everything. He is the one person I know I can talk total rubbish to and won't have to justify myself. He's my team mate, my coparent and I know he's always in my corner. I love him and plan to be with him forever. But I also know I can be without him, I would rather not, but I would be ok.

I believe in the concept of soul mates, but I don't believe they are always your life partner.

We used to.

Definitely. My DH died 28 years ago and I still love and miss him. I never remarried (he was irreplaceable) and I hope God will reunite us when I die.

Yes. Soul level deep.
It binds us. So that all the little stuff can never tear us apart