DH rated 'worst hubbie' by friends whilst on holiday & feel REALLY annoyed!!

[emfjh]

Whilst on hol rcently (with 5 other couples & ten kids (!), 1 couple had no children)my dh was voted, quite lightheartedly I imagine, 'worst husband' for being the hubbie who helped with kids least/stayed in bed longet/ never offered me a lie-in/drank most etc etc) & all 'voted' by couple with no children.
Despite it all probably being jokey & 'a laugh', it made me really angry that our, so called, friends cold judge us so critically & announce it everyone!
Any else had this done to themso is it just me with a crap hubbie??

so he stayed in bed the longest leaving you to get up every day, drank a lot and didn't interact with his kids

he sounds a bit of an arse really .. when its written down like that

I'm sure he's lovely .. only you can know .. for this after all is an internet forum and we can only 'judge' based on what you've written and what you've written makes him sound really crap tbh

They sound very sad and infantile to me tbh.

I think I'd be more irritated with your dh tbh

god I hate teh word hubbie

He doesn't sound ideal tbh

what are his good points?

Do you think your friends have a point? Were they trying to give him a push to help you out maybe?
Only you know him well enough to know if he is worthy of the title "worst husband"
I do hope he isn't, for your sake

why didnt he help out? it was your holiday too

Could it be that you are actually angey because you think it's probably true, but are too proud to admit it, as the implication is then that you let yourself be taken advantage of?

Sorry, I know that sounds harsh, but....

What Stressteddy said. Sounds like they thought he should have been doing more for you and with his kids and found a 'jokey' way to point it out.

my dh sounds like the op's, but i can criticise him but Hate if others do

I think if my dh was like that I'd quite appreciate that someone else had the guts to say it to his face.

What was your dh's reaction. Has he reflected on this?

I see the wisdom in Twiglett's post.

If my husband behaved like this on holiday . . .

Well, he wouldn't because he knows I wouldn't put up with it. Nor would I ever consider treating him that way.

I hope my daughters never grow up to think it's acceptable to be walked all over by a partner.

It's pretty bad when your own friends go so far as to comment on his behaviour, especially the men. I'll bet they've been biting their tongues for ages.

Nobody knows the dynamics of somebody else's marriage and they had no idea of what it is like to have children. They should have kept their vote to themselves. Only you know what you are prepared to put up with and what your DH is really like.

You said the other couples didn't have kids - does that mean the 10 kids were all yours??
If he is lovely and they were being unfair, you could always tell them you are just with him cos the sex is sooo good...

my dh is always seen as the worse by friends and relatives, he is. dont know why i put up with it, most comments are "how do you put up with him" take a close look at him.

emfjh - haven't you recently started a thread about havign a second child and you have commented on that about the fact your DH doesn't want a second child becuase he struggles with parenting your one son ....doesn't do anything to help you etc,etc, i htink your friends judgement seems spot on...

Are these things that you think is "wrong" with him as well though?
Are they right in what they are saying?
From what you write then it does not sound as if you are in an "equal" relationship, if that makes any sense.

As others have said, If your DH really did behave like this I would be far more annoyed with him than the friends, who just pointed it out.

Do you think maybe you are upset because you are embarrassed that they noticed how slack he is?

EMFJH

Your post seems contradictory to me.

Firstly you say that you are angry that your friends could judge you so critically and announce it to everyone.

Then you ask whether or not it is just you with a "crap hubbie".

So are you annoyed with your friends, your husband or both?

Your husband sounds like an arse to me, it has to be said. But maybe he makes up for things in other ways? [hopeful emoticon].

I wouldn't be angry with your friends. I know your husband is your husband and you want to defend him. But tbh it sounds like they are trying to open your eyes and his too, for that matter.

'hubbie'

He sounds pants tbh. Agree with others. I wouldn't be having it.

People always comment on how helpful my dh is (he isn't perfect but he is pretty good) but why should it be any other way? It's a partnership, no?

They will all think it's great because today he is in the playground doing school pick up because he got off work early. That's no big deal to me. They are his kids too so why not?

Why anyone puts up with any less I have no idea.

Worst husband of all husbands EVER or worst out of the ones on holiday with you?

All husbands ever = a bit harsh, I think.

All husbands on holiday with you = are they right and that's why you're pissed off, really?

hunker get thee to this thread!!!

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