DH rated 'worst hubbie' by friends whilst on holiday & feel REALLY annoyed!!

[emfjh]

Whilst on hol rcently (with 5 other couples & ten kids (!), 1 couple had no children)my dh was voted, quite lightheartedly I imagine, 'worst husband' for being the hubbie who helped with kids least/stayed in bed longet/ never offered me a lie-in/drank most etc etc) & all 'voted' by couple with no children.
Despite it all probably being jokey & 'a laugh', it made me really angry that our, so called, friends cold judge us so critically & announce it everyone!
Any else had this done to themso is it just me with a crap hubbie??

How old are your friends? This seems like a really odd thing to do. Put it this way - if I went on holiday with DP and a group of friends and others in the group decided to 'vote me' as the worst wife or whatever, I would be hurt and angry to say the least.
And I would not be going on holiday with them again.

I am not over keen on some of my friends' husbands/boyfriends for various reasons but I wouldn't dream of telling them (unless they actually asked) - it's just rude. And I would expect the same in return.

I think they may have been shocked by his behaviour and felt sorry for you. They wanted to make a point and took the jokey way of doing it.

Changed nickname for purpose of another thread but emfjh back.......
Have thought about it LOADS over past 24hrs & yes, I too think dh can be hard work on the helping with ds, domestic stuff but it's very difficult to try & get someone to change (help? he's his ds too!) when they see things differently ie. he works, I do most of childcare & house stuff.
I think our scenario is pretty typical actually & those of ye out there whose dh's help out alot & are truly hands on without prompting/nagging, then you really are lucky ('lucky'? not sure if I like that word).
Thanks to those who have been open & admitted their dh's can be just as hard work, as reading those who have been quite critical it's made me realise that when you are in a situation it's hard to see woods for trees & maybe to do something about a not so good situation is difficult, because its 'easier' to carry on as you have been rather than maybe argue, again, about who should bath ds, cook supper etc.
I still feel it wasn't our friends place to say anything (they're not that close friends either!) & it was the wife who brought it up & not over supper, it was over breakfast.
I would never dream of saying that kind of thing out load despite maybe talking about another couple behind closed doors, as we all do.
Ta to those who've supported me

I used to have a friend I was extremely close to, had been since I was 17- had been my best woman, was ds1's Godmother (well still is but you wouldn't know), extremely close. Then when Dh got ill we went out for a night- and she slagged hiM! Yeah now OK, he wasn't great at that point, but it was a blip and I knew that it was, he was depressed for chrissake!.

have to say, communication between me and friend now virtually nil, I moved away anyway but would've happily gone to visit her regualrly- now, nada. Not happening.

So yes it has happened to me and i trusted my own judgement and am glad of it (usually LOL)

(Only read OP btw)

I would have been so grateful if my friends had taken it upon themselves to start a "Who has blown every penny the family had, including the rent money" competition.

I would have had concrete proof that I was not being a controlling bitch to my ex.

now you have had concrete proof to your husband that he wasn't helping you enough, to the point where other people had noticed, and felt they had to say something, and you are cross? They have done you a fvour.

Yeah I guess you're right but I think it was a bit of a wake up call for him to hear his own friends rating him as crap & I think it embarrassed him if nothing else.
Last few weeks much better so it feels like we're working as a team more