Lonely with lockdown easing

[youareanobody]

I'm in Scotland and from tomorrow our lockdown will begin to ease, in a similar way to in England.

Anyone who has been through this, or has the easing of lockdown rules just feeling very lonely?

I had a similar feeling loom over me with each time lockdown was extended but that was because I felt that nobody really cared enough to check in on me (via message or call). I would send messages to friends and sometimes I wouldn't get a reply for days.

Now with the easing of lockdown I just can't help this feeling hanging over me of, "who will want to meet me for a socially distanced walk"?

I am married but our relationship has been awful for the last 6 months. I was so close to leaving in February but stupidly decided to give it another go, then lockdown happened. We don't talk at all.

I also have a 16yo DD (not with DH) and she is ecstatic to meet with her best friend from tomorrow.

I don't know why I'm posting really I'm just feeling very down and alone. I went for a local walk earlier and could feel the excitement from people in their gardens about lockdown being lifted / eased. But it just made me feel awful

I have been on MN for years but decided to NC.

Ah, ok so sellers don’t want to risk being refused the planning.
And buyers will be reluctant to take that on as is. Catch 22.

I think it’s less likely that they are unwilling to pay, just unwilling to take the risk they are rejected and end up having to remove them, so you could agree to carting them out yourself and reflect that in the offer. If you are planning on staying there for a while (until the 20 years expires 😂) then you don’t need to do anything anyway!

I take it it has a home report? You could always instruct a proper survey just to be sure. Doesn’t sound like a lost cause though. X

Are you sure? I'm so clueless in all of this!

The house I live in at the moment was bought by my DH as we prepared to move in together 8 years ago. I couldn't go on the mortgage as I was already tied in to another mortgage on the property I had previously shared with my ex. I wasn't involved in the purchase of that home either, for various reasons.

My head feels as though it's up my backside at the moment...had to read and re-read that email so many times this morning to try to take it in. I'm normally a fairly intelligent person

Thank you for your advice, it's much appreciated. Especially in non solicitor jargon. Although tbf she did break it down quite well and explain everything out....it's just how my pickled brain is functioning at the moment!

I'll definitely be planning on living in the property for many years. I'll see what tomorrow brings when I hear back from the solicitor.

Forgot to mention...yes it has a home report and all looks well on that. Seems to be a well maintained home.

are you sure? do you mean about the 20 years? Yes, and your solicitor confirms that in the first screenshot.

Or their reluctance being about planning rejections over cost? I would say they’d far improve chance of sale by applying for even a letter if comfort, but if they do and it’s rejected then bang goes the whole conversion. Just my thought if I was a seller in their position.

For your own peace of mind you might want to instruct a structural survey before making an offer. It will be pricy but not as much as an extension on the smaller house.

I’ve bought and sold a few times over the years. - can you tell? 😂

Ihavenicelegs
Sorry, when I said "are you sure?" I meant in reply to you saying it doesn't sound like a lost cause I really thought it did sound as though that was that!

I haven't heard back from my solicitor this week, so will now need to wait until next week.

Strange couple of days here.
On Sunday if said to DH I really wanted us to try living in a more amicable way. Last couple of days he's been extra nice. Too nice.
Offering to make me a cuppa while I'm working. Asking if I need anything from the shops while he's out. Asking if I want some of the meal he's cooking from scratch.
Tbh it made me feel uncomfortable. I didn't want things to go back to how they were. The silent treatment didn't bother me, it was the grumpiness that was getting to me more than anything.
Yesterday he was crying, saying he didn't want to be with anyone else and that he although it's probably for the best, he didn't want us to split up.
I explained that it definitely is for the best. Then we had a chat about where things went wrong. One thing I mentioned to him is that when he's annoyed at me, he takes it out on my DD too. And when he's annoyed at her, he takes it out on me.

Yesterday, DD was ungrounded. She came home and it was evident she'd had some alcohol. DH also saw her, and literally would not stop going on at me. Saying I had to punish her, had to get her under control, that she definitely wouldn't have been social distancing when out etc etc.
I asked him repeatedly to just stop! He wouldn't. So eventually I just lost it and started shouting at him. Was then accused of "being out of control". Which left me feeling confused, guilty and ashamed.
I then went upstairs and began giving DD a really hard time. Shouting etc. I'm not proud of myself, and I'm feeling even more trapped today.

Feeling guilt, shame, trapped, down and like a terrible mother and confused, because my feelings towards DH are like a rollercoaster.