How do I stop feeling angry

[Willowmartha1]

I know I shouldn't feel a angry but I do ! Met someone before lockdown had a couple of dates and have kept in touch ever since but the last two days I've had no contact. He was full of big plans for when lockdown was over and I feel cheated and angry that he has just cut off contact without no explanation. I feel like angrily messaging him and saying 'remember me' but then I make myself look silly and I don't want to give him the satisfaction that I'm even bothered !!

How often are you Normally in contact?

Every day

He usually sends me funny videos or photos to cheer me up but these have stopped too.

...its been two days lol.

Do you not think maybe contact every day was a bit much for him and he is now just trying to reset the pace?

Sounds like he’s changed his mind for who knows what reason. You have every reason to be angry, but I wouldn’t give him the satisfaction at all as you will only feel worse after, especially if he doesn’t respond.

If you can, then block him as this gives you your power back and will stop you from checking for messages and his online/offline status.

Phone could be broken?

Phone isn't broken ! He's been on what's app a lot today just not to me !!

Have you messaged him at all?

Sorry OP but it sounds like you've been ghosted. Sadly not uncommon in the dating world these days. Hold your head high and remember it was nothing you did 💐

Did you contact him? Could he feel
that you are not that interested? Have you been proactive keeping in contact?

Find someone else to message, normally helps you to forget and move on.

I’d find it hard to sustain chat with someone I’d been on a few dates with. Maybe suggest a walk in the park. If it’s a no then move on

to cheer me up Were you low?

Just message him - nothing to lose.

Just generally fed up with lockdown he used to send funny memes and videos daily these have now stopped. If I message him and get no reply I'll feel worse !!

You might feel worse for a while but at least you’ll know you tried. How do you know he’s not sitting there feeling like you haven’t bothered to contact him?!

Definitely contact him! If he doesn’t reply you’ve lost nothing. There is no shame in sending someone a message!

Gosh this is a bit much op? You’ve met the guy twice and haven’t seen him for two months and you’re angry he hasn’t contacted you for two days?

I mean I’d get it if you were married or in a relationship but, well you’re not.

Wowsers. Its been two days. You sound very needy.

My mother gave me some very good advice once. She said I wasn’t upset because of the failed relationship I was upset because my hopes and dreams for the future had been torn away. She was completely correct.

You don’t really know this man to be upset about him personally. You’re angry because you’d hoped he’d live up to his promise of the plans he’d promised and you’d projected the life you want onto him.

He’s obviously had his head turned by someone else he’s chatting to. He’s not the person you hoped he was. Let him go.

When someone has messaged everyday without fail for two months and then it just suddenly stops it's hard not to feel a bit miffed !

It wasn’t real Willow. You need to view it like yes catfished you.

*he

Have you messaged him and he hasn't replied, or are you waiting for him to message you because he normally does? Seeing him active on whats App doesn't mean anything. He could be having some family or work crisis which means he hasn't had time to contact you. I'd try with something non confrontational like 'haven't heard from you for a few days, how's things?' and see if / what the response is before getting angry about it.

No I haven't contacted him because I'm scared he won't respond and I'll feel worse ! Stupid I know. I also feel that even though there's a work or life crisis you can still find time to contact someone.

Anyway work or life crisis he's been very active on what's app ! just not to me