Partner paying for porn/pictures???

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Hi just wanted to get peoples opinions on this because I'm not sure what to think.

I have been with my partner for 5 years now and we have a child together.

Was looking through emails to help him out and found a receipt for a site I've never heard of, anyway I have googled it and it's an escort site with videos of women and private galleries of them too.

Just abit of background he's struggled financially for I'd say around 10 months and I've gave him money throughout that I'd saved up (not just a tiny bit of money either I may add) and turns out he's spent over £100 in the past couple of months to view pictures of other women and videos

I honestly don't care about him watching porn that isn't my issue here. My issue is that he's paying for it.

I'd like other people's opinions on it because I'm so confused and to be honest it's made me feel not good enough. Thanks x

It was 2.5 years ago now and I’m in a much better place in life now than I was when I was with him.

Regardless of the porn thing (that’s a whole other thread!) for me it was the 1-2-1 contact, it took it from viewing anonymous porn online to essentially entering into a sexual relationship with someone else.
The adding in the phone number swapping compounded that.
If I were in your shoes, which I appreciate our situations and circumstances are different, the access to an online phone directory would be the end for me, the potential for contact, which has very likely happened and hidden at a time when you were vulnerable as a pregnant woman and then a new mother wouldn’t be something I could get past.
Deffo get a STD test, if you’re unable to access a GUM clinic today your GP surgery should be able to provide you with a swab you take yourself to test for chlamydia and gonorrhoea, just as a back up in case services are restricted due to C19.

So you expected a man with a porn addiction to be respectful your wishes? Ha!

@PawPatrolMakesMeDrink so glad to hear that.

I can't it's not something I can forgive because i can see that he's done it in black and white which is awful but I can't move past it especially as it was in the last week and he has no excuse for it!

Will be ringing the doctors soon to ask them x

Good, stand by your convictions and come back to this thread to reread how it’s made you feel when you have a wobble.

I felt utter shame and embarrassment at first when I told friends and family about our separation and the reasons why, but that did soon wane.

Sounds like it would be ideal to find some pretext to get as much back, per month say, as quickly as possible, rather than piddling amounts over years.
What that could be ....

Porn addiction. Check out the signs and symptoms.