Dating is driving me insane! Why is it so hard?!

[katiie3]

Hi everyone.

I have recently started online dating again, and I’m already pulling my hair out?!

I spoke to a man online, bumble for a few days, and eventually exchanged numbers to talking on Whatsapp.

We spoke for 2/3 on WhatsApp and it was nice. But he constantly expects me to reach out first and text him. He even said, I don’t chase anyone.

It has put me off. It should be an equal effort of desiring to speaking to each other.

And his answers are becoming so dry, and boring. He sends one words answers and expects me to carry the conversation. If I stop, he doesn’t contact me, and says he doesn’t play games. Yet on bumble he was so funny, keen and constantly messaging back and forth.

He said he expects me to contact him and if I like him then I would want to talk to him.

I text him everyday but it’s too hard for me to carry the conversation! We haven’t met, it is lockdown so we can only text or call. He suggested a video call, which I said okay to, but I look awful on camera.

I feel like ending things or should I just put more effort into chasing him?

He sounds deranged. Please just stop contacting him (he does not need an explanation) and block him. Why would you allow anyone to treat you like that. He’s probably got loads of women fawning all over him (there is another very similar sounding thread on here) & is loving all the attention he gets.

@katiie3 can I suggest you read the dating thread on here and in particular the rules it’s very useful and you need to develop a tough skin

Why are you wasting your time with this man? Bin him off, he’s not worth bothering with. You haven’t even met him and he’s causing you strife! Throw this frog back in the pond and move on.

What is the point of dating right now when you can't even meet them? Surely we're at a point where dickheads expose themselves as such very quickly so you have the best opportunity to recognise the red flags and block?

Yeah ignore him.

You don't have to end something that hasn't even started. Stop wasting your time on this idiot. No need to say anything just stop texting. A relationship needs to be both ways not you text me then I reply. If this is the way he is now imagine down the road how he'd be.

If you stop texting him, just stop dead, I can guarantee that you will be subjected to a flood of messages, all along the lines of 'i knew you were talking to other people, you've found another man, haven't you; I bet you're out flirting with other people and that's why you don't have time for me; you are a tart and I always knew it'.

So do make sure you block his number at the same time as you stop talking to him.

This is a great thread HAVE A READ THROUGH
It's truly funny and will give you lots of tips on what do avoid!!!
But block this weirdo right now!!!!
Don't accept any crap from anyone.
Keep your boundaries in place.
Don't let anyone over step them!!!

Bin the prat off.
There must be some nice blokes out there, he isn't one to bother with.