Is he lying?

[homebaker88]

Really need some outsiders’ perspective on this.

A few years ago, I was seeing this amazing guy who I completely fell for but I wasn’t getting the attention/commitment I wanted. He said he felt the same but was wanting to take things slower. So basically, I’m not proud of it but I cut things off with him suddenly without telling him and blocked his number etc. He kept tried contacting me continuously off different numbers and got his friends to contact me to, but each time I blocked them because I just didn’t want to have the conversation. A couple of weeks after that I met my current partner. When we got together he used to see how much the previous guy would try and contact me and how weird it got. I was constantly having to block numbers. A year in from then, I got engaged to my current partner and we moved in together. Everything was going so well until one day I got an anonymous phone call from someone telling me he was cheating. I told my partner and instantly we both thought it was linked to the previous guy so I didn’t take any notice and changed my number.

About 6 months after that, in the space of a week someone came up to me and told me my partner has been having an affair. He showed me evidence of messages etc. I dismissed it to friends and family and my partner said it was probably that guy again. A few days after that, someone who said they were a mutual friend of me and my partner, messaged me and said they didn’t want to say who they were because they didn’t want to fall out with anyone... but the cheating accusations were true. I was then shown a picture of my partner kissing another woman!!! The date the photo was taking was when I was out at work. The number and messages shown by the guy also match my partner’s and was when I was away with work.

I obviously confronted my partner and told him and he’s insisting he never cheated on me and is innocent. We are living together and it will be difficult to move out during lockdown. I’ve never questioned my partner’s love, he gives me attention and I’m always the centre of his world. My friends and family have said the same and that he would never do that to me and they can all see how much In love we both are.

What do I do?!!!

If you have photos of him kissing another woman then you have proof he cheated on you regardless of his denials.

Not sure what more proof you need than a photo. If you are the centre of his world though surely you should believe him when he lies to you?

He's lying. Your previous guy was a good cover for him but now you have cold hard evidence.

Two things can be true at the same time - you can have a stalker-type ex and your partner can be a lying cheat as well. It sucks, but appears to be the case for you.

I don't know how you can disbelieve a photo of him kissing someone else .

You can split up with your current guy and he can leave - it's only going between households that's not permitted.

I'd say it's too long ago from when the last guy last contacted you for it to be anything to do with him.

With the messages and photo, you have incontrovertible evidence that your partner is cheating.

clearly he has cheated when you have photographic evidence and messages that is his number. Also the fact mutual friends told you, what would they gain from lieing.
The only question you should have is should you forgive him and that is your decision. Mine would be no for lieing to your face while still cheating 🤷‍♀️

You have a dated photo of him cheating?

Why are you asking if he’s lying when you have proof?

No offence... use your brain! You have been approached by someone who told you that he's been cheating. You have been shown messages from his number, and you have been shown a photo of them kissing! It doesn't matter whether he's nice to you. He's a liar and a cheat. You let this slide, and the chances are he'll do it again and again.

Do you really need to ask? You know in your heart. And, your eyes!

He’s saying we should go to the police about the other guy because he reckons it’s him?

My friends and family have said the same and that he would never do that to me and they can all see how much In love we both are.

That's what he wants them to see and now you have cast iron proof, you should tell them.

People have been married to serial killers and not known...off course someone can deceive you and cheat.

What do I do?!!!
Tell him the relationship is over....unless you want to continue believing his denials in face of irrefutable evidence.

So he is saying that the ex photoshopped him into a photo kissing another woman?

I think you know deep down this isn't the case.

How does he explain the photo and messages?

He’s saying we should go to the police about the other guy because he reckons it’s him?

So the guy you were seeing knows your partner's phone number, and has doctored messages to look like they came from him? He also doctored a photograph?

Well that’s what my partner is saying.. is there any way to tell?

How is he explaining the kissing photo?

This guy forced their lips together, did he?

Hmmm.
So you got an anonymous phone call from one person
Then someone different showed you some messages (did you personally know the person that showed you?)
Then a 3rd random person showed you a photo AND the date of it?

If this was a murder mystery that would all be very convenient as proof

Given how often on here people seem to find out after other friends and they still weren’t told, the fact that 3 ‘random’ people are so keen to tell you this seems unusual and suspicious to me personally.

Your new guy may be a cheat for sure - seems like a horribly high percentage are - but this all seems a bit, well, convenient?

What do you mean the date of the photo? Where was the date displayed?

Give your head a wobble! You've got a photo of him cheating! What's not to understand?

The stalker guy would have had to have a photo of your husband in the exact kissing position and have your dh phone number and some pretty good photo shop tech, then he'd have to have 3 different willing people in on his plan to carry it out and contact you etc..... How believable is that op?

This makes no sense op. If you’ve a pic of him kissing another woman why are you remotely thinking it’s your ex behind it? That’s illogical, he’s either snogging someone in the photo or he’s not.

I don’t know, I agree with SnakesandKnives it’s all too convenient. Did you know the guy that came up to you? When you say the photo is dated, how? Is it date stamped?

She has a picture of him snogging another woman,,,🤣

Are you saying it was photoshopped? Pretty easy to spot most times. If it's real you need to get real.