Snogging before sex

[Jollymollyx]

Random question for married couples with multiple kids. How often do you ‘snog’ I was just watching tv and there was a couple passionately snogging and I just realised we never do! Even sex is not much kissing like before, it’s just getting straight to it. I miss the passion feeling. Do most couples just get like this after kids or is it just us

We use the word 'shift' in Ireland instead , much prefer it, it sounds less ... sticky

We’re not even married and I realised while watching Normal People that we hardly ever snog anymore. I think it coincides with us not going out on dates or getting drunk together anymore. I must try harder as it’s always lovely when we do it.

Definitely was 'getting off with'. Or 'getting round'. Or pashing in some places!

Love a snog. Been together 23 years, married 18. Often kiss, occasionally snog, but always during sex.

Only ever before or during sex. A shame really as it’s nice but neither of us is particularly affectionate. Lucky to get a “peck” goodnight!

Omg I love a good song. Always received compliments too! Sadly I married a man who didn't like it and kept his eyes shut during sex...way to wreck a girl's confidence.

I had myself geared up to OLD properly, now that I'm a few years separated, and boom! Lockdown.

So God knows when I'll resume. It's very sensual and rather erotic imo. I miss it a LOT.

Isn't a 'snog' always with tongues though or it's just a kiss?

We never do but then my husband isn't one for paying his wife sexual attention

Dh & I hadn't snogged for ages until last week. I just went up to him in the kitchen and snogged him. Only for half a minute or so, we were fully dressed, it was in the middle of the day and although the dc were in the other room they were not engaged in anything so it was obvious that nothing else was going to happen but it was nice. We did it once or twice since too. No tongues though; I hate French kissing!

Lots here and hugging too, been together for over a decade! It's nice to have that physical connection, even if it doesn't lead to anything :)

18 years and two kids later we “snog” (the word makes me cringe) at least once a day, usually when DH has been at work so I’ve missed him, hug loads and shag when we have the time (and empty house).

Love a good snog!
Together 16 years, 2 kids and both around 50.
Always before/during sex, but also just because lots of times a week. Lots of quick pecks too and holding hands. We both like to be physically close to each other and are both very tactile people. It's whatever suits you isn't it.

Kiss every day, frenchie/get off with only if it leads to sex, as it makes me too horny otherwise .
1 child, together 20yrs, married 8yrs.

We properly kiss (hate the word snog, but yes, that!) once or twice a day, usually in the kitchen while making tea or on the sofa watching TV, plus lots of smaller kisses and hugs throughout the day.

Definitely before and during sex. A couple of times he’s made me orgasm purely through passionately kissing me.

And weirdly I like it when we accidentally bump teeth or it’s a bit too tongue-y almost like the worse the kiss is, the more it turns me on

Been together 8 years but don’t live together.

Not married but living together, only been together two years, and no, sadly we don’t snog apart from before or during sex - sometimes not even then. It’s sad because I love snogging - I fondly remember us snogging on my sofa when we first got together (although even that progressed upstairs quite quickly).

Think the problem is that my bloke isn’t naturally very physically affectionate (he is aware of this, and does make an effort as he knows I miss it, but.....) If one day we were out or something and he just grabbed me and snogged me, I would LOVE that - but to be honest i’m thrilled if he just touches me on the shoulder. And while he says he enjoys me being physically affectionate (massaging his hand while we are watching TV etc), going for a full-on snog would feel too much for me, because of how he is.

Our sex life is good however, and we get on really really well. I fancy him like mad!

I do remember my ex husband and I, even after over 10 years and a child together, snogging much much more. (Trouble was, he was always snogging other people too, I found out........)

Same OP. I love kissing my DH and he’s very very good at it but doesn’t like to do it ! He says it makes him feel claustrophobic. I “refuse” to have sex without kissing upfront so we do but as soon as he thinks he can get it over with it’s no more kissing and just DTD.

Been married 21 years and we still do a lot, probably every day and not just before and during sex.

We often end up having a random snog in the kitchen or, we'll just anywhere really (no, not in public, thats just tacky!!).

14 years in and yep, we're still snoggers. Whenever and wherever 🤣

It’s nice to see so many couples still have that spark!

Still not understanding how snogging happens without tongues - non tonguers please give an explanation of how you 'snog'. Totally perplexed

Still not understanding how snogging happens without tongues - non tonguers please give an explanation of how you 'snog'. Totally perplexed 

Don't ram your tongue down their throat to tonsil level. I don't mind it at all, wife hates it, well most of the time.

Right, so tongues do go in but not much? No idea why this is bothering me so much 😁

No because he has tobacco stained teeth

tinyvulture out of interest, how is your sex life good if your DH ianot physically affectionate? Don't you need lots of physical affection and attention during sex? Surely it is not just 'shove it it'?