new covid guidelines: is everyone in a non-live-in relationship still not seeing their partner?

[SenselessUbiquity]

Given that there has been no mention at all of social interaction beyond:
1 - meeting one other person outdoors at a distance of 2m
2- in the relatively far off future, being possibly able to socialise in "bubbles" with one other household thus facilitating childcare etc

basically if you are in a relationship with someone whose household or day to day life you do not share, there is no mention at all of when that will resume.

What does that realistically mean in terms of what people are actually doing?

• following the rules to the letter? for as long as it takes?
• saying "fuck it" and meeting indoors and being physically close anyway, in secret?
• somewhere in between?

Please tell me the truth. I won't tell a soul!

Sorry to hear that @nex18.

DP and I hadn't seen each other since early March. We live 2.5 hours apart.
He'd have come to see me much sooner but I was a stickler for the rules. I have 2 children at home.
On Wednesday we both had a coronavirus test. There were 2000 available appointments at my local test centre so I just booked one. Both our tests came back negative within 48 hours.
I discussed the risk with my ex who was happy to have the kids and return them to me after.
DP has just left mine after spending a couple of joyous days together. My neighbours frowned at us walking the dog together but I am beyond caring. That said, I will not be openly sharing our meeting as I know people will judge.

Good news Pinot Pony! Maybe I should book a test too. I just thought that you had to be showing symptoms to get one.

Also, it's nice that your ex was so kind and understanding. Mine would use it against me for sure, and couldn't stand the thought of me having a good time.

@PinotPony we have done the same several times.. and will be doing it again.

@blubberball Yes, you are meant to have symptoms... nobody asked any questions about that at all. I drove in, did the test and drove out.
I was concerned about taking a test from someone who needed it but, as there were 2000 slots that day, I didn't think that was an issue. My priority was ensuring I was negative before DP visited.

Omg @MenopausalMrs but your partner is at same risk from his son going back and forth to His ex as you are !

Just see each other as partners , nobody cares !!!

I booked a test, even though I don't have any symptoms, it's OK because of my job. There were also thousands of slots available in my local area, so I don't feel bad. Feels like a good thing to be doing.

Has anyone written to their MP about this issue? I’m really tempted to, and wonder what sort of reply I’ll get.

But who is checking ??? Just invite your partner over tomorrow !

You just need to do it, everyone. It won't be sanctioned by government for months yet, I think.

www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/sex-your-house-person-another-22117105?fbclid=IwAR1ymmF5eZMnTe_uY-gD_jrSAacflZNuLx_Zuxlob7f592EhvjYItKXECic

More great news for us all! Probably the opposite of what most people are hoping!

Never thought we'd be living in a world where consensual sex is illegal!

Just do it.

@Mascotte I would. But for people who have partners that won't agree, we have no choice. Government sanctioned or not.

That's hard @Bramble. I think I'd seriously question my relationship then. I couldn't live with a relationship like that.

@bramble but are these partners that don’t agree aware that this could go on for months ???

@Mascotte me too

Mascotte I also would, if it weren't for the relatives currently living with my boyfriend. We did a bit of a risk assessment yesterday and with one going out to work in a care home and one with diabetes we don't feel it's as low risk as it would be of he were alone. The relatives are looking for somewhere of their own to live so we are keeping everything crossed they move out soon (they only moved in temporarily and his flat is too small for the 3 of them). We will continue to risk assess regularly, looking at care home figures in particular.

Surely the risk of one working in a care home bringing the virus back to the one with diabetes is miles higher than you seeing your partner ?

That should be if he were alone, not of

I got a email from Ryanair saying travel restrictions are lifted from the 3 rd June and flights to Italy in July.
So it's ok to be crammed into tiny seats less than 20cm to strangers but you can't be with your partner?

Blimey, it's illegal now.

Seems so odd for them to have made it illegal at this stage of lockdown, a bit late surely? I will be carrying on as normal regardless.

@LemonyCupcake

Surely the risk of one working in a care home bringing the virus back to the one with diabetes is miles higher than you seeing your partner ?

Oh yes definitely the highest risk lies in the care home worker bringing it to his household. Me bringing it to them via seeing him in my home is the lowest risk. The concern was around if it does get brought back to his household, there is a (medium??) risk of him then bringing it to me, and me then taking it to the supermarket or to a friend I am occasionally meeting in a park (probably fairly low risk) .

I am fairly comfortable with the risk to myself (am fit and healthy, though not quite under 45), he is a bit less comfortable. It doesn't help that we are both essentially rule followers.

God hope they move out quickly !