new covid guidelines: is everyone in a non-live-in relationship still not seeing their partner?

[SenselessUbiquity]

Given that there has been no mention at all of social interaction beyond:
1 - meeting one other person outdoors at a distance of 2m
2- in the relatively far off future, being possibly able to socialise in "bubbles" with one other household thus facilitating childcare etc

basically if you are in a relationship with someone whose household or day to day life you do not share, there is no mention at all of when that will resume.

What does that realistically mean in terms of what people are actually doing?

• following the rules to the letter? for as long as it takes?
• saying "fuck it" and meeting indoors and being physically close anyway, in secret?
• somewhere in between?

Please tell me the truth. I won't tell a soul!

Sociallydistanced do you or DP have children ? I would have my DP come and stay for a night or two but I'm worried as he's only met dd a handful of times, so I don't want it to be confusing even thought he would stay at night and leave first thing so he wouldn't see her! I am still in 2 minds whether I should hug n kiss him but I hugged him last week and we have been fine. I'm so excited to see him later

I've seen mine all the way through too.
He lives a mile away, on his own and has minimal contact with others

To be honest quite early on he has spent the majority of his time with us anyway, only goes home twice a week to sleep and then hes back again.

We were supposed to be moving in together this month anyway

Stuck to the rules until last week. I'm shielding so haven't been in weeks. DP went and got tested, then when home till results came back, then came to mine and stayed for a few days. We will do the same thing in the next two weeks or so.

We aren't going to anytime soon. Social distancing is still fully in place where I live. FaceTime it is for now.

@thesedaysarescary social distancing is in place every where in the UK, that will not change for a long time ! So people now are using their own brains and common sense otherwise their relationships and MH may end up worse

I wish they would fast track antibody tests as am sure me and dp and my kids have all had it !

@lemony - antibody tests are now available - £69. PHE approved ones. I just ordered one today from Vitall

Seriously ? Where from ??

I’ve been seeing my partner for the past month, once a week. We both know where each other have been and in contact with etc. We social distance if we go out to the shops, we are both at home with our own kids all week and my kids stop at their Mothers for two nights every week, like they are allowed to, so my household is already mixing. I think a lot is down to common sense, if your own circle is small the risk of infection is already minimal. I know of several others who are also doing the same in regards to their relationships. If what they say is true that we will have to live with the virus for a while then might as well get on with our lives before the actual fear of leaving the house is far greater than catching the virus in the first place

Totally agree @TheJHD

@lemony vitall.co.uk/test/coronavirus-covid-19-antibody

But also from Superdrug apparently, just announced today

Is this the Roche one ?

No I think it's the Abbot one - the other one that's been approved. See
www.ft.com/content/14b69e2b-c55b-48e0-8c66-2232f2e857df

What diff does the antibody test make to us couples separated? X

@dollface19 to anyone shielding I suppose means it’s safe to see each other ?

These antibody tests are only any good if you have suspected you've had it/14 days of onset symptoms. A friend of mine said she was going to get a test and had Covid like symptoms back in mid-March (she's fine now), what's the point!?

because the antibody test picks up exactly that - antibodies to show you’ve had it previously !!!

@Lemonycupcake but reading up on some of these tests it says it could come up with a negative if you've had Covid in the past 21 days.

Ah well then you could wait?

I think I had it in early March for eg so would def test if I or anyone in family were vulnerable...

I guess for people who are able to sustain a LDR it’s not so different, you find ways to connect when apart and you’re clearly both good at meeting each other’s emotional needs from afar.

I found that when my DP went away on business for up to 3 weeks at a time, by about week 2 I’d get tearful - the level/quality of communication I’d receive by that point was making me feel unloved and forgotten which then led me to shut down emotionally. My DP is all about the phone, whereas I hate it - I will tolerate FaceTime but it’s still weird to me.

It takes me a couple of days to get back into the swing of things when he gets back, as that natural ease I have with him seems to disappear and I go all shy.

How is everyone gettin on x

Looking forward to meeting him again tomorrow, weather looks rubbish but I'm past caring! After the next review, if it's still not allowed, I think we'll have to make our own decisions going forward. Has anyone had any problems with neighbours etc now partners are going into houses?

@dollface19
I was just thinking the same.

Still doing socially distanced walks, though upgraded to a takeaway outside in his garden, still apart, last night, which was nice.

Just tootling away seeing each other as normal. No neighbour problems - I did speak to one set to explain our little bubble thing and no judgment!

Sadly we still can't see each other in person as we live 150 miles apart with me living in Wales and my fiancee living in England which further complicates things for us. Although we're used to being long distance this is by far the longest time we've been apart (11 weeks tomorrow) and it's not easy to deal with. I hope they will allow some mixing of households or allow non essential travel soon to give us some hope. Not knowing how long this is going to go on for makes it more difficult too.