Is this a cause for concern?

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NC for this.
In a recent conversation with a guy I'm "seeing", the topic of sex toys came up.

His comment was along the lines of why I may purchase one if I had him. My response was that it's a perfectly normal thing to have/do whether in a relationship or not. He got defensive, saying I'd have something to say if he was sticking it in any randomers hole. I explained that it was not comparable as a sex you doesn't involve someone else and anyone would have a problem if they were in a relationship with him whilst he was sticking it about. He started going on saying I'm preaching about women's rights etc.

Am I right in thinking that this is a perfectly normal/acceptable thing? The way he spoke to me made me feel like it was a disgusting thing to do. Or like he was insecure about the possibility of me using one. What was a jokey comment from me has now turned into this.

Please can I have your opinions?

Omg, block and run. He's a small-minded, misogynist control freak. I guarantee this is only the tip of the iceberg as to how horrible and abusive he actually is. Run run run.

He's threatened by a toy so mega insecure. Thinks using a sex toy is cheating. Sees women as only sexual as a appendage to a man's sexuality. Thinks women being sexual in their own right as some kind of crazy women's right idea.

Doesn't sound like he's supportive of either women's sexuality or their rights.

FUCK. That.

I prefer a partner who is 100% at ease with my sexuality.
So that means that I can buy whatever I want and watch or do whatever I want without his permission.(consensual, legal, monogamous etc)

My sexuality is mine and it’s something I share with my partner. Not something that belongs to my partner.

This way only misery lies... He's already showing you how he thinks - it will only get worse...

He believes he owns you. So many red flags ;

''why I may purchase one if I had him''
He doesn't like the idea that you masturbate.

''I'd have something to say if he was sticking it in any randomers hole.''
He is equating you masturbating with him cheating.

''He started going on saying I'm preaching about women's rights etc''
He doesn't think women are humans in their own right, finish with him and block him.

Run away.

He’s trying to control how you masturbate. Get rid of him.

He's definitely got some learning to do. No doubt he's feeling threatened and insecure about it but it's your pleasure, your body etc. Probably not the one for you or anyone given that pig headed attitude

I would be running fast.

Ew! Dump and block the misogynistic, feeble, insecure creep!

Run. That’s all. Everyone above has said it all.

He sounds thick as fuck and rough as fuck too.

“Sticking it in any randomers hole”.

Up your standards. Seriously.

if you're only 'seeing' him it's not serious, so you can easily not see him again.

Yuk. Get rid. Fast.

Honestly op you can’t find that attractive can you? Someone’s as thick as that who thinks like that and speaks like that?

You’d have to be desperate, throw him back to finding his “holes” to stick it in.

Thanks for your comments. At least I don't feel like I'm being silly anymore.

Is there any men out there who are actually normal?!

Time to up my standards.

Up your standards by about 500 miles.

Anyone who used the term "stick it up a randomer's hole" wouldn't be someone I was interested in knowing.

Apart from every PP being bang on the money about him being insecure, narrow minded & a misogynistic twat to boot, the sex would be sh*t too.

If he can't even imagine why a woman might have a toy as well as a partner, can you imagine trying to explain to him that no, in fact, that's not your clit/g-spot & no, that doesn't feel great & actually, I need a bit more sensation to really get into this? Christ, I have a headache just thinking about it.

He sounds deranged.
Be wise and dump the loon.

Ask him if he's ever used porn to have a wank. I bet the answer is yes.

Then find somebody better.

@FreedomBird "My sexuality is mine and it’s something I share with my partner. Not something that belongs to my partner."

YES! Preach that shit from the rooftops!!!

OP, dump that fucker faster than fast. No fulfilling life, relationship OR sex that way lies.

I've tried to make it clear to him that I was upset by his response he said that basically if I wanted to be in a relationship with him then I'd respect the fact that it's something that he wouldn't like me to do!

Honestly I really am gobsmacked at his attitude and how he can think of any valid reason as to why it offends him.

Has it changed your view and feelings towards him?