Partners best friend

[19claire88]

Hello

I’ve been with my partner for just over 6 months known him for around 5 years, everything is going great he’s moved in during lockdown. Everything is great until he’s best friends girlfriend comes up in conversation. We are neighbours, and since we became an official couple she hates me, she gone from trying to setting us up to this.

We all used to get on great bbqs, parties and shopping trips all normal things that 2 neighbours and friends would do.

Over the past few months I’ve been named called, over heard several quite nasty conversations about myself, been accused of taking his money, she’s spoken to my partner about me in a disrespectful manner he did call her out on it.

I’ve tried over the past few months up until lock down to resolve this and it just seems so unrepairable even during lock down I’ve messaged her and the replies I get are you won’t take him away from us, I have never implied I would I don’t want to destroy a friendship, but with her behaviour she’s gonna lose a friendship because we can’t even be in the same room together.

I guess I’m just looking for someone to tell me to stop trying with this women it’s getting me no where, our wider friendship circle have now seen what she’s been doing so it’s not going unnoticed.

What do I do, do I stop flogging a dead horse or do I keep trying it just feels so embarrassing to keep trying.

Btw I’m aware now childish this all is I’m 30 they are 40.

Thank you for reading.

I just wanted some clarification that I wasn’t over reacting not having to explain his every action I’ve changed some details just incase as I’m sure anyone that knows me in real life would link these 2 things together. I got the answers that I wasn’t over reacting to this situation. Thanks to those that helped with the original post. I won’t be coming back on this as other info has been picked apart when I’ve carefully changed details to allow some form of privacy when asking a bunch of internet strangers for some help.

Good luck. Keep your eyes open. Hope it works out however it goes.

She sees you as a stopper for all the bits she gets to take advantage of from your partner. He buys gifts, he does stuff for them etc.

There seems to be some strange emotional attachment here that's kind of like a mother son thing going on

In fact. Shes acting like a batshit MIL

He needs to grow a pair and have an adult conversation with this woman.

But you need to play tactics too. Treat her like a MIL and be exceptionally nice and non threatening. That's the only way you'll get her on side.

Good luck. It all sounds a bit too exhausting for my liking!

they have a past and she’s jealous

I agree with sugartits.

There’s far too much going on and your bf’s lack of wanting to confront her. Maybe her kids are your bf’s? If not I think they had sex at the least.