Husband still going to supermarket every day in lockdown

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My husband isn't stupid... he knows and talks about the virus and how we all need to be on lockdown. He agrees with the idea that we should just do one big shop a week. But he still goes out every day/every other day with an excuse to buy something.
I can't do the food shop because we have a baby. I've tried writing lists for him with enough ingredients for food etc for a week. He still finds a reason to go out.
I never thought that he would act this way in a time like this ... I'm shocked.
Any ideas on how I can talk to him about how serious I find this- without him shutting down?

"you got that from a small amount of text"

Just like some posters here got that he's off shagging his mistress from a small amount of text! Seriously, what's the risk of getting the virus from visiting the supermarket? Vanishingly small I bet.

Seriously unless you are vulnerable you’ve literally zero chance of dying of Covid and that’s if you even catch it

He clearly goes the shop for a break

No big deal at all

I go most days myself

Seriously unless you are vulnerable you’ve literally zero chance of dying of Covid and that’s if you even catch it

This is utterly dangerous.
ONS figures are showing 11.7 % of men (aged 0 to 69) who died of it, did so with no pre-existing conditions. 10.6% of women (aged 0 to 69) did so without pre-existing conditions.

Have a good think.

www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/deaths/methodologies/measuringpreexistinghealthconditionsindeathcertificationdeathsinvolvingcovid19march2020

But that doesn’t mean 11.7 % men died from it

There’s 66 million people in uk so 45000 is not even close to 11%

440 (or about ) under 40s have died and 90% of them had underlying conditions

Stop scaremongering

The risk of dying from it may be very low for most people, but still you wouldn't want to catch it anyhow, as it can be very unpleasant and potentially do permanent damage to your lungs. Still, like I said the risk of catching it while visiting the local supermarket would probably be extremely low.

It is very low and ridiculously low for under 40

Even health minister yesterday said most over 80 and having conditions still survive

My DH goes to the supermarkets more than once a week, before lockdown one of us was in a food store daily so we have cut down and I don’t go out at all. We are feeding 2 households and helping 2 more with bits. My DF still goes to the local shop for his paper daily.
It’s not an excuse to ring their OW

For my DH he doesn’t need to go to the shop he could make calls on his journey to work or when out running and I don’t track him.

Most people DO survive.

BUT...

1% of 50 million is 500,000 people. Which is precisely why we and so many other countries initiated the lockdown.

The whole point of 'flattening the curve' wasn't to stop it spreading, but to control the rate so that if and when those 50 million finally catch it, it will over a longer period of time, and our hospitals will be able to cope. The moment they can't cope, the percentage of deaths will rise rapidly.

Also, it's hoped we will buy ourselves time to better understand the virus and provide more effective treatment to reduce the death rate.

We've got well over 30,000 dead with the lockdown. The slow loosening of the measures is VERY tentative to see what happens. There is absolutely every chance we'll go back into lockdown... time will tell.

But really, it is SO dangerous to say 'no chance of dying from it without underlying conditions', because it is demonstrably not true.

Unless he regularly licks fellow shoppers, I couldn’t get too worked up about this.

Take away his excuse to shop by doing it yourself. He can then just go out for a walk, or even a drive and sit from tomorrow

@daisymay133 it's not whether YOU would die of it, you utter plank. It's about spreading the he virus to those who might become seriously I'll or die.

Well those who are vulnerable or ill shouldn’t be out and should be isolating as per gov advice

Vertical

Actually are hospitals can cope

We are under capacity and at latest meeting he said something like 8000 critical beds are free and that’s not inc the nightingales

That’s why lockdown has eased slightly

The whole point was to reduce nhs being overwhelmed and it’s worked

Now there’s space, we have to open

What you going to do, hide for 2 years til there’s a vaccine? Seriously it isn’t going away because you hid in your house

You can only be safe by being immune and that only comes from vaccine or exposure

So you realistically have to hide for two years or just go about your day and learn to live with it

Daisy, I didn't say they cannot currently cope.
I said the whole point of flattening the curve was to enable them to cope, which remains true.

However, even WITH lockdown, we can see the deaths are alarmingly high.

You've basically reiterated most of what I said!

It's not JUST a matter of being under capacity so open up... it's a matter of how steadily we open up, and to do so in a methodical manner that allows us to measure the effects of adjustment we make, then we can rewind more easily knowing which aspects to adjust.

But if we make an adjustment to lockdown now, you probably need at least a month to get a feel for the effects... let alone obtain statistically sound evidence.

The chief concern with opening up too quickly (and especially in places like schools) is that we might not be in complete control of the steady increase in infections - it might runaway rapidly before we've had chance to measure it... which is dangerous

this thing with tracking apps is rather worrying?? you know that many similar tools are not just about gpa tracking - a lot of them allow one to monitor messages and calls as well, here: www.mspy.com/installed-applications.html So, it is true that if you see he's in a supermarket he just could left his phone in the car and meet someone, you know.

of course, th very best thing i can recommend it a honest talk at least.

Last week he brought back Norovirus 🤢, gave it to me too. And yes, he’s insisting he’s going there this week too
The F?!

Maybe its just a boredom thing?
I know in my case since I've been put on furlough - this is week 4 - I've been finding reasons to go out almost daily.

This thread escalated quickly!

Ignore the people saying he’s making secret phone calls etc🙄🙄🙄 I’m the same because I’m sick of being stuck in the house - nothing more than that, and that’s probably the reason for him too. You know him better than strangers Online and if you trust him, you trust him nothing more to say xxx