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lucyblaze · 06/05/2020 17:22

Hi

Ive been married for 3 years and my husband knows I used to be a swinger and had many experiences when single. This included threesomes and moresomes.

He never tried swinging, never had a threesome and he says he is desperate to try, Im happy to do this as I can separate sex and love. But Im not sure he can, also he lacks confidence sometimes when we are making love.

Any advice? Should I just go along with it see what happens?

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PixelatedLunchbox · 07/05/2020 00:34

OP you sound like you're not really that into it anymore, like you could take it or leave it. And that you're going to be taking one for the team - for your OH. If that's the case, don't open the can of worms any further, because if he gets a taste for it and likes it, and you have had your fill of swinging, it could cause a lot of problems. So that is the question I would ask myself if it were me - do I really want to embark into the lifestyle again or is it a "been there done that, want to focus on other things now" scenario at this point in life. And then proceed accordingly.

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Dontletitbeyou · 07/05/2020 05:44

also he lacks confidence sometimes when we are making love.

This alone should tell you it’s a really really bad idea . If he watches you having a great time with someone else , any insecurities he has are going to be magnified by 100. I definitely wouldn’t , you could handle it , doubt he could .

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Ilets · 07/05/2020 05:55

What does he actually want to try (so much bet it's a threesome with another woman)? Is he into kink at all? I thought the idea of going to a club just to watch was a good one, but it's probably best to know what he thinks it will be like first. Is he putting himself centre, or does he want to watch you with someone etc? It might be that the fun is in the profile and the unicorn hunting, or that he prefers clubs. And does what he wants to try fit with what you like?? (Even, maybe he is doing it because he thinks you are bored)

Clubs aren't opening for quite a while but there might be private parties. As you know, noone is meeting now but a bit of online fun might be a good way to start?

And yes ... sex people are really bored right now!