Are all men like this? If so, how do you ladies handle it? I’m at the end of my tether and am feeling quite down and don’t really know what to do next.
My DP of two years has an attitude to women which he seems to think is perfectly normal but I find it really insensitive and more the actions of a single man.
On Instagram, he follows loads of those bikini models- you know the ones- boobs and bums. On Facebook, he’s got loads of likes pages and groups of the same things- women with their bums and boobs out, naked ones with a small item covering their bits, legs open with a little thong on pulled right into her vag. We’ve had countless “discussions” about these as these things make me feel worthless- he likes these pictures and has on a couple of occasions left comments. He’s deleted them telling me he’s sorry then they magically reappear. Last night, laying in bed, he was looking at his Facebook page and a photo of a woman in a tiny bikini, half her boobs hanging out popped up. When I asked what he was looking at, he said it was part of a tattoo group (she had a tiny tattoo). When I asked what group, he went to their page and it was all half naked women with tattoos. I got upset and he told me I’m controlling and that he should be able to look at what he wants because every man he knows watches porn and has that stuff on their phone and it’s healthy and normal to do so. He then said if we were out for dinner and an attractive woman walked in, he should be allowed to look at her as it’s normal to see beauty in people. We argued and have only just started talking because he told me that he loves me and that just because he’s looking at other women, it doesn’t mean he loves me any less or that he’s going to have an affair. I’m completely fed up and have come to bed alone.
He also had a few of his ex girlfriends on Facebook and Instagram. He was liking pictures of them in bikinis. He told me he only had one ex on there and at my request, he deleted her. He then let slip about this other ex. When I looked at her page, he’d liked loads of her photos since being with me.
On Facebook as well, I saw on his following list a very attractive young lady. When I looked at her page to see what she was famous for, it turns out that she’s a normal woman that was working somewhere he had been working for a couple of weeks. When I asked who she was, he said he’d never heard of her. When I asked why he was following her, he saidhe didn’t know who she was and that Facebook must have automatically followed her. He unfollowed her after a lot of innocence protesting.
Why do men do this? Does it mean he’s looking out for a bit of fun? It makes me feel really inadequate, he can’t fancy me that much if he’s looking at that lot. Why keep his exes on his friends lists?