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Money or Happiness

36 replies

Hettie25678 · 02/05/2020 21:18

I'm with someone with not much money and be super happy, or with someone who has plenty of money and not be as happy?

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ElectricTonight · 02/05/2020 21:19

Someone with not much money but happy.

Umberellaellaella · 02/05/2020 21:22

I cant think of anyone who would prefer cash over happiness but weirdly some people do pick it.

ParkheadParadise · 02/05/2020 21:22

Someone with not much money but happy.
Money cant buy happiness.

CuppaZa · 02/05/2020 21:23

Having had and lost both and different times, happiness all day long

UnabashedlyNeurodifferent · 02/05/2020 21:25

If you put it that way, then I'd say be happy without money but if you ask to choose randomly between money or happiness, I'll choose money and buy happiness.

Oh yes, money CAN buy happiness. It just can't buy peace of mind, inner joy, etc but we're not talking about those, are we?Grin

OhTheRoses · 02/05/2020 21:26

It's better to be poor and happy than rich and miserable but if one has to be miserable rich and miserable is much better than poor and miserable.

RandomMess · 02/05/2020 21:28

Honestly depends why they are "poor"

Stoner, musician trying to find themselves... erm no.

Cantpickausername5 · 02/05/2020 21:33

Balance of both please, a lack of money can cause so much unhappiness, stress trying to pay bills or even get a break away once in awhile, also being in a relationship where someone can't manage money can lead to huge resentment. I mean gun to head, life or death than obviously happiness but its not that black and white in real life unfortunately

Gemma2019 · 02/05/2020 22:53

Depends why they don't have much money. If they had a good work ethic and worked hard in a low paid but worthwhile career then yes. Unemployed and lazy then no romance without finance!

TudoBem · 02/05/2020 23:12

Obviously happiness, but it’s not that simple - it’s very difficult to be poor and happy in this world. Money may not buy happiness as such, but it can buy security and it’s hard to be happy if you don’t feel safe and secure.

Littlemix1 · 02/05/2020 23:14

Happiness over money any day. Obvs money is important to pay bills etc but as long as you have a roof over your head and food on the table I'd choose happiness every time

HolyWells · 02/05/2020 23:15

Why is it an either/or choice?

TooTrueToBeGood · 02/05/2020 23:17

Happiness is the most important thing in life. Just be very sure money is not important to your happiness.

Raidblunner · 02/05/2020 23:40

I've had money and lost it and made it again...happiness is the key though. It's really about how you view the two in their entirety.
Money for me makes life secure and stable where as true happiness comes in the simple form of love. Certainly a lack of money can bring hardship and suffering to the over complicated lives we live. Yet look at rainforest tribes that live a simple life hunting & fishing and raising their families. Sounds beautiful to me.

Tigger001 · 02/05/2020 23:44

I would choose happiness every single time. So long as you have the money for a roof over your head, food and the necessities, being truly happy makes all the other stuff irrelevant really.

Halestorm · 02/05/2020 23:47

My Dsis admits that the main attraction of her marrying her DH was money. They are separated and those first few years they had were nice. The rest has been utter hell for her. It's fucked her up and worse, it's fucked up her kids. But it's not changed her. She would still fawn over anyone with money regardless of what kind of a person they were.

I, OTOH, have been piss-poor. The recession hit us hard and it was grim at times. But I got though it because I was with someone I was happy with and life is so much more pleasurable with someone who's your biggest supporter. Now things are easier, we are comfortable but not flash, future secured and still best friends and mad about each other.

The sad thing is that my sister I think pities me for not aiming higher. Yet I pity her because the richness and authenticity in my life is something she'll never understand nor value.

Lalala205 · 02/05/2020 23:53

Money 100% for me! But mines a DP problem. I earn more, do overtime, work longer hours to basically ensure we're not on the breadline... He bitches on about his MH, which yes I really do get! But I basically can't afford to even take a sick day from illness because he's too busy 'being unwell', whilst lying on the sofa, watching boxsets, smoking weed and contributing to not even the basic minimum. Yes, I may sound like a complete cunt. But I'm so tired of worrying every month about paying the bills whilst he bangs on about how hard he's got it. I also get the added joy of all the cleaning being left to my time off. Oh, and this isn't a 'new' issue, his exes all apparently contributed for years to prop him up. I'm sensing a single vibe may be upcoming after lockdown... What I wouldn't give for even 1mth of 'I'll step up for you!' Shallow, but true 😳.... So essentially I think my perspective is 'I'd rather not be unhappy and skint!' 😂

DeeCeeCherry · 02/05/2020 23:53

Money and happiness. I'm not noble enough to be happy without home comforts. Money wise, 'comfortable' is acceptable but 'not much money' nah, restricted life choices much...

MiniTheMinx · 02/05/2020 23:55

Odd question. Money makes some people happy. Does it make you happy? I don't think it has to be an either or. I am unhappy if I am forced to worry about money. But I wouldn't change DH for any amount of money. I married him because he makes me happy. I wouldn't have married him in my 20s, I was too busy having fun with someone who had lots of money, someone who I am not with now because no amount of money would make me marry him. So, I think it depends on two things, firstly what point are you at in your own life, and what do you want from a relationship. And the answer to that can change over a lifetime.

TudoBem · 03/05/2020 00:02

I think it’s notable that the people in this thread who have said “happiness “ unequivocally have also added the massive caveat of roof over head etc. As if those things come for free. The question isn’t riches or happiness, it’s money or happiness. It’s bloody hard to be happy - even with a wonderful partner - if you can’t pay the bills.

“When poverty comes in the front door, love flies out of the window”.

BackforGood · 03/05/2020 00:07

Another wondering why it is an either / or choice.

I defy anyone to be continually happy when they don't have enough money to get by. What do you mean by 'poor' ? No food? No home ? No security in life ?

How can you judge you wouldn't be "as happy" ?

Are you dating two people and considering your options ?

OldWomanSaysThis · 03/05/2020 00:37

As long as you have your own money it's all good - because that's what money gets you - freedom - freedom to date someone with no money but makes you happy.

RantyAnty · 03/05/2020 00:55

This isn't even a question.
Why do people even ask it?

It's no fun being poor if the best thing about your partner is his sex skills and that makes you happy. Never mind the refusal to work, or getting fired from job after job, or get rich quick schemes. Impulsive spending, drug/alcohol addiction, gambling addiction.
Not having a roof over your head, being able to feed your children, and every day is drudge from having to work your arse off for close to nothing. Never getting to have a holiday, go anywhere, do anything, because you're too poor.
True poverty isn't as romantic as it sounds.

tryinghardnottocry · 03/05/2020 01:33

Whoever said money can't buy happiness simply didn't know where to go shopping

tryinghardnottocry · 03/05/2020 01:39

I should have said in my previous quote that they were the words of Bo Derek

The one I now recall I really think susm it up is by Henrik Ibsen

“Money may be the husk of many things but not the kernel. It brings you food, but not appetite; medicine, but not health; acquaintance, but not friends; servants, but not loyalty; days of joy, but not peace or happiness

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