Does anyone elses hubby do this too?

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everytime we discuss something dh will say things like common let's see your smile, and it really really gets on my nerves..
It's a feeling like hes patronising me if I'm disappointed if he says no to something..
he gets really annoyed every time I've asked him to doing it..
Not just this but he becomes very needy before sex then after hes had it, it's like he becomes a bit arsey/cocky to, is this a guy thing?

It sounds like a lack of respect tbh 🙄

No to all of them.

My 5 year old asks me to smile when he knows I'm cross but he's a child.

My DH is never arsey or cocky to me ....he behaves the same way before and after sex.

Your husband sounds like a child.

Don't worry your pretty little head about it

The "come on let's see you smile" thing is massively patronising. It's what I might say to one of my kids.

The sex thing is just weird

@NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1

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No. Not all husband's act like this. Yours sounds like a complete divvy.

No, and I would find it massively patronising.

The sex thing is odd, I wonder if it’s a conscious thing or not.

You lost me at hubby tbh.

Surely you knew these behaviours of his annoyed you before you married him?

Divvy is such a great word.
And yes your husband sounds like one.

disrespectful and sounds abit of a twat about sex. big turn off for me so sex wouldn't be on the agenda until he behaved like a decent human being.

I think the sex thing is childishness. Somehow he thinks it's something to be proud of.

If my DH spoke to me like that, he’d be EXH before he could reconnect the arse that I’d just handed him.

No, it’s not a guy thing, it’s a sexist, patronising twat thing.

Nope husband doesn't & neither did any exes.

Presumably it's a post marriage thing...

All of that would massively give me the ick. Shudder.

The sex is understandable and I feel a bit unfair saying it the way I did know because we dont have it often and he gets a lot from it ie affection love etc.. I'm not bothered either way due to my past but he does get a lot and he is very patient.. so it's unfair me saying hes needy before.. but the after behaviour I dont think he actually realises hes behaving that way.. weve been together since we were teenagers so that's why I'd asked if it was a guy thing...
Hes came in and hes been awful nice so hes probably had time to chew on the discussion we had earlier.. his behaviour I cant explain very well.. like we were talking after he came home there and i was bent over emptying the dishwasher and i started to ask him a question about what he was telling and he turned and said well if you shut the fuck up I'll tell ya haha.. when I say to him that was out of order hell say it was a joke.. but all I'm hearing is an authoritative voice.. and have been for a while know.. I suppose I'm noticing things I've ignored before and I guess I'm setting new boundaries