Been together 7 years. Very happy in all aspects of the relationship. But I have an issue with sex that I cant get over.
I wont go into too much detail, basically I enjoy being treated roughly and DP enjoys displaying an aggressive (but always controlled) side sexually.
Over the past year or so, I have been left upset afterwards, I feel weak and pathetic and (hate to use this word as its soooo not the case)abused.
I cant let DP know as he would feel awful if he knew that this was affecting me in this way - also I believe he would insist that it stops but TBH, I dont think I could enjoy that part of our relationship any other way.
I'm so scared of things carrying on the way they are as I'm starting to feel like a total fraek, never felt that way before. But I'm more scared of it stopping and that part of our lives becoming (for want of a much better word) normal, because I dont think I can relate to him in that way.
Oh god, I sound like a complete nutter seeing it all written down!! I'm not btw - I promise.
OK so the point of this is - I dont know what to do for the best. I realise this is not the sort of subject many people will want to associate themselves with (dont blame you - I have namechanged after all)but if anyone has any kernels of advice they would be accepted most gratefully.