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My husband is sending messages to females on social media

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vohen · 21/04/2020 22:51

I have caught my husband sending flirty texts to work colleagues previously and we have fallen out about it and he promised to stop.
I’ve now found out that he is sending private messages to females on Twitter and Instagram, telling them how beautiful they are and what sexy bodies they have etc. These are all ‘porn star’ like females whose posts are all then showing their bodies in various states of undress.
What should I do? I’ve lost all respect for him. I don’t know why he does it as none of these women reply to him!!

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RantyAnty · 22/04/2020 11:40

Yes LTB. This entitled lazy bastard seems to think he can do better (delusional) so he is out there scouting for action.

Decide when and where you're going and get your finances sorted. You'll be able to breathe a sigh of relief when you're rid of his cheating dead weight. I'd stop with the personal maid service too. You work and come home and have to kiss his ring. Screw that!

vohen · 22/04/2020 13:51

Thanks again everyone.

It's just a pity that everything on lockdown just now so not readily available to get advice on steps to take. I guess it gives me time just to plan and maybe start looking at flats etc to rent as no way will he move out. He will turn everything round to make it all my fault as usual, or not trusting him and checking his phone. Well past experience has made me suspicious and proved me right again!!

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yerawizadari · 22/04/2020 13:54

Females? I'm assuming you mean adult women, rather than girls?

vohen · 22/04/2020 14:14

Yes, adult females, mostly on Twitter, pictures and videos of them in various forms of undress or videos of them naked or pleasuring themselves!!!
The thing is any of my daughters could go onto Twitter and see the pages that he follows, not the direct messages but nevertheless.
I did tackle him about it before and he just shrugged!! I don't think either of them use Twitter but they could if they wanted to

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NoMoreDickheads · 22/04/2020 19:02

videos of them naked or pleasuring themselves!!!

Ewwwww! That's even worse OP.

LouiseCollina · 23/04/2020 01:55

The only reason he hasn’t cheated yet OP (if indeed he hasn’t) is because he hasn’t yet been presented with the opportunity.

You’ve objected to his sleaze-bag behaviour and his response is to simply shrug? That’s a contempt riven gesture in these circumstances. He’s telling you he couldn’t give a fuck. If I were you I’d be returning the sentiments.

Wanderlust21 · 23/04/2020 02:01

Yuk. Omg your last post op! He's so creepy.

Not only would he be out in his ass, I'd make sure my daughters knew 'this is the second time ice caught him sending messages to other women, no more excuses. Men who disrespect us women like that are not good enough for us'. A life lesson for them.

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