Boyfriend advice please

[lennyhenryslaugh]

Ok so I need some perspective here, I'm in a relationship with someone and some bits don't feel good...sooooo I want you to list what you think makes a good boyfriend? And what doesn't.

I've been in a long abusive marriage then played the field for a year and have no idea what normal is any more.

Well he is still here, I can't seem to get rid of him, he won't go and now keeps crying and begging. I do love him and care for him but he's making me really stressed and unhappy.

I've got a couple of job interviews so that should distract me...

...still not put his hand in his pocket to pay rent or offered to work more than the 20 hours he does.

That's great to hear you've got interviews. Hope they go well.

You remember how you said it's ok he doesn't pay rent because that underlines that it's YOUR place? That means he doesn't get to refuse to go, if you don't want him there. You can get him out. Now that you've said you want him to go, you must get him out, or he'll know he can ignore what you say in the future.

When he goes to work, put his stuff outside in a bag and leave the key in the door so he can't let himself in.

You will have to be very determined if you want to end it. Make a decision and stick to it. Repeat to him, I want to end it and I want you to leave.

He is not going to change so don’t hold on thinking he is suddenly going to pay up.

he won't go and now keeps crying and begging. I do love him and care for him but he's making me really stressed and unhappy

So, now his free accommodation is in danger he turns on the waterworks. But once his feet are under the table, he’ll slack back off.

Never mind unhappy, OP I think you ought to be fucking furious.

Hes a user and is only crying because he has been rumbled. Get rid of him pronto. He is a manipulative leech.

Stay single until you want better for yourself x

Keeps crying and begging but didn't follow through with actual money when he promised it a month ago when you have him a second chance.

It's all just words, OP. Show him what decisive actions look like!