No you can't I'm afraid. It's hard but it's hard for us all.
Those breaking the rules aren't helping anyone.
However, I know that at least one of our neighbours thinks we have been breaking the guidelines but we haven't been. They made enough comments for us to think that and we did in the end out then right quite bluntly over one or two points. .
First..
We were all self isolating at the start as dd had a cough. Mil was living in the next town over visiting FIL who was seriously ill in hospital. When lockdown happened visiting stopped so we asked mil to live with us for the duration - FIL was terminal and we didn't want her to be alone. This was fine to do - we were told we could merge the households if it was for the duration so we did.m but not immediately as mil waited u until fil's negative test came back and we finished our isolation period.
Then... both Dh and I are classed as key workers. I'm in an at risk group but not shielded. I'm not at work so no issue. Dh is also a net worker though it couldn't be obvious to others as to why. He does have to go into the office to pick up files and deal with post, and he has to take documents and money to vulnerable clients - all being done safely and non contact. But yes he's been in and out in his car some days each week, though only doing it once per day when he's been.
Also ... MIL and Dh were then able to drive and visit FIL as they moved him to a hospice. Bil was able to visit when their father died last week. He lives a long drive so he did stay over as driving back that night wasn't safe and there was paperwork to do the next day. There were no hotels as he's not a key worker.
Mil has also had to go out in her car to deal with paperwork and admin. - getting some from her home and some from the hospice and post office in that town.
Funeral yesterday meant we were all out and we met with bil and his family. Still social distancing which was really hard when you've upset children crying over their grandad and they can't hug their nana.
And we are having our daily exercise - all of us only once a day, but in different pairings, solo or sometimes together.
One set of neighbours has twice questioned our coming and going and having mil here. And yes twice we have put them right about what happened. Dh was very blunt about it the day his dad died and was questioned. Hopefully that's out a stop to it but they are definitely the type to report us.
What I'm saying is that you don't always know what is really going on, only what you think is happening. Do what that in mind and having people question us (and probably talk behind our backs too) has made a difficult time a little bit harder and more upsetting.