Am I allowed to visit my family on Easter Sunday?

[LidiaM]

hi guys,

I live 30 mins drive from my parents who are in their mid 40s, they also live with my younger brother. We are normally very close and we havents seen eachother in about a month (since law have suggested that we should stay at home)

We stay at home, my husband goes shopping once every 2 weeks, my baby who is 8 months old havent been out for the last month.

We understand the risk of going out and we even stopped walking together or exercising...
I am wondering if in UK we are allowed to visit my family on Easter Sunday?
I am asking because I know they are safe,
we arent sick either.

I am very annoyed because I have friends who visit their families or siblings who they not live with all the fricking time and I am sticking to this quarantine but a little bit fed up now knowing that peope still visit their families and I havent,

I really want tl go to see them on Sunday, what you guys think?

[Qwerty543]

"This is why the country is fucked... Half the population have zero common sense hmm"

This country is fucked because people can't read plain English.

[JudyCoolibar]

This is why the country is fucked... Half the population have zero common sense

Absolutely @CaroleEffinBaskin. Surely anyone can work out that it makes sense at least to read the OP's posts before posting something that has become totally irrelevant?

[JudyCoolibar]

Are people really this stupid?

@JoeySpecial, that wasn't the cleverest question for you to ask, given you were telling OP not to do something she had already said several hours before she had no intention of doing.

[Roussette]

The OP has totally taken the advice, I think she knew anyway.

My NDN has been living somewhere else and renting out the house. His tenant moved out a few weeks ago. He drives back every few days to mow the lawn (no staying in one house for him) and yesterday and today there have been groups of people coming to look round the house. Then today two builders and a woman (van and a car) turn up and unload breeze blocks and panelling.

It's pathetic. For some, life just seems to carry on as normal.

[Sosadandempty]

My neighbour 2 doors down is having an Easter gathering in their garden. She's a teacher at the local primary school and I've heard at least one other teacher and a few extra kids...

Just why? On a purely selfish level, don't they want to get out of this lockdown situation as soon as possible? That's without factoring in the pain and suffering that unnecessary gatherings might cause when people potentially catch the virus from each other.

[DontPetTheSweatyStuff]

My neighbour 2 doors down is having an Easter gathering in their garden. She's a teacher at the local primary school and I've heard at least one other teacher and a few extra kids...

[MarieQueenofScots]

Half the population have zero common sense

Definitely. I mean it’s just common sense to at least read the OP’s posts in a thread to see what the situation is before replying....

[CaroleEffinBaskin]

This is why the country is fucked... Half the population have zero common sense

[Dances]

No he didn't, not on Easter Sunday

[Frompcat]

OP HAS ALREADY SAID SHE ISN'T GOING.

Jesus wept.

[MarieQueenofScots]

Just imagine how you'd feel if you infected your family ..... you'd weep for the rest of your life because you'd be a murderer

What utter rot.

Seriously. It’s bad enough not bothering to read the thread (where the OP clearly stated by the second page she wasn’t going to go....) but the puerile hyperbole is utterly laughable

[Dances]

Of course you can OP!

Jesus rose from the dead on Easter Sunday so you will be totally fine

[Aragog]

No you can't I'm afraid. It's hard but it's hard for us all.

Those breaking the rules aren't helping anyone.

However, I know that at least one of our neighbours thinks we have been breaking the guidelines but we haven't been. They made enough comments for us to think that and we did in the end out then right quite bluntly over one or two points. .

First..
We were all self isolating at the start as dd had a cough. Mil was living in the next town over visiting FIL who was seriously ill in hospital. When lockdown happened visiting stopped so we asked mil to live with us for the duration - FIL was terminal and we didn't want her to be alone. This was fine to do - we were told we could merge the households if it was for the duration so we did.m but not immediately as mil waited u until fil's negative test came back and we finished our isolation period.

Then... both Dh and I are classed as key workers. I'm in an at risk group but not shielded. I'm not at work so no issue. Dh is also a net worker though it couldn't be obvious to others as to why. He does have to go into the office to pick up files and deal with post, and he has to take documents and money to vulnerable clients - all being done safely and non contact. But yes he's been in and out in his car some days each week, though only doing it once per day when he's been.

Also ... MIL and Dh were then able to drive and visit FIL as they moved him to a hospice. Bil was able to visit when their father died last week. He lives a long drive so he did stay over as driving back that night wasn't safe and there was paperwork to do the next day. There were no hotels as he's not a key worker.

Mil has also had to go out in her car to deal with paperwork and admin. - getting some from her home and some from the hospice and post office in that town.

Funeral yesterday meant we were all out and we met with bil and his family. Still social distancing which was really hard when you've upset children crying over their grandad and they can't hug their nana.

And we are having our daily exercise - all of us only once a day, but in different pairings, solo or sometimes together.


One set of neighbours has twice questioned our coming and going and having mil here. And yes twice we have put them right about what happened. Dh was very blunt about it the day his dad died and was questioned. Hopefully that's out a stop to it but they are definitely the type to report us.

What I'm saying is that you don't always know what is really going on, only what you think is happening. Do what that in mind and having people question us (and probably talk behind our backs too) has made a difficult time a little bit harder and more upsetting.

[CurlyhairedAssassin]

The retired couple next door to me satout in their garden yesterday with their daughter and son in law who were visiting, as if it was like any other Easter weekend. I was very . Especially as my neighbour must be 80 something and she has COPD. Her chesty cough is constant, she still smokes I think.

When the lockdown first happened I asked her over the garden fence if they were ok and did they need us to get anything. “Oh, I have COPD, yes, but I’m ok, the rules only refer to people who have it so bad they’re on oxygen. So I can go out.”

I mean, what can you do? Some people are just not taking it all very seriously.

[ExD1938]

Just imagine how you'd feel if you infected your family ..... you'd weep for the rest of your life because you'd be a murderer.

[Thornhill58]

No special dispensation for being Easter Sunday. Stay home.

[Nonnymum]

No of course you can't, it's hard I understand I haven't seen my children or grandchildren for a month and they live locally. I havent seen a vulnerable relative who lives in a care home for longer. I missed his birthday..it physically hurts not to see people I love and to worry about them from afar. Soms people can't even see their dying relatives.
This won't last for ever but for now for everyone just stay at home. Just because some people are doing it it doesn't mean you should. Just be the bigger person.

[Heartburn888]

Not until the restrictions have been lifted

[IndieTara]

Does this help??

[Trooperslaneagain]

Fucking hell.

[whatdayisitandotherquestions]

Yet another thread full of self-important whingebags who can’t even be bothered to read the thread before piling on to give someone the kicking they’ve been salivating over.

OP well done for taking advice on board. It absolutely sucks when you do the right thing and see others blatantly flouting the rules.

This.

OP ignore this lot. You asked a question, got an answer and took it on board.

This lot who are going on despite you clearly saying you're not going are exposing themselves as the people who get a kick out of having a go at others on mumsnet. They can't even be bothered to read the first few posts of a thread, so keen are they to have a go. It's pathetic, honestly.

Hope you have a bearable Easter at home OP, coul you have a go at skyping them maybe?

[MarieQueenofScots]

You also called people stupid, which one might argue could also apply to someone who has deliberately ignored the pages of posts.

If you’d actually read the thread you would have acknowledged the OP wasn’t going.

[JoeySpecial]

And I didn't say don't go.... I said I can't believe people would even ask.

Its obvious really.

The Government have said STAY HOME. Your home. 🤷‍♀️

[JoeySpecial]

I did thanks.

I read all of the replies.

My post still stands.

[poppadopolis]

@JoeySpecial

Maybe try reading the thread.....or even some of it.....or even just the OPs responses.......or even just the MN comment....or even just the post immediately above yours.

For goodness sake!!!