How is YOUR DP/H getting on your nerves in this lockdown?

[Zola1223]

Mine is playing video games all day and sometimes well into the night. The other day he came to bed at 3am and woke me up. We've not DTD once since the lockdown because his computer is sooooo much more important/interesting than his DW.

He's forgotten how to cook we used to take it in turns to make dinner but now I seem to be doing everything. When I asked him to cook the other day he managed to cock it all up.

He's also not replaced the toilet paper on 3 separate occasions

Tell me I am not the only one questioning my marriage

Dh has become The Bread Police.. Ranting at the dc for wanting to use a Warburton loaf instead of cheap bread for a sandwich..
He actually did a flounce mn would be proud of!!

He's still working and still being the super DIY champ he always is. He's getting a fresh cooked meal every night at a reasonable time and I'm doing some of the chores he normally does so he's pretty happy with the arrangement so far.
The only way he is getting on my nerves is by coming home at lunch time and ruining my TV schedule...

by being perfectly happy to sit on his arse and watch TV all day …. I'm trying to get the family together a bit more with board games, film nights, eating at the table. Tricky with teens but I'm trying and he's not bothered ….. it's winding me up.

His one word answers also wind me up … I'm starting to realise I get most of my chat and laughter out of the house at work, or out with friends, which is actually very sad.

Every time he walks into a room I'm in he blows his nose! If I'm having a meal he stands behind me and snorts into a tissue. He stands behind me watching me do a jigsaw then out comes the tissue (well kitchen roll) and honks into it.

I've told him so many times I don't want to hear him snorting snot, he apologises and then 5 minutes later ...
He doesn't even have a cold!

After 46 years of marriage this could be the final straw!

Breathing

Nothing, am I in the minority?
We like each other!

He’s here but he’s not here. I can’t focus on my work because DD is sat next to me and endlessly talking. He is upstairs in the office working. His company have made allowances for him to work at home so it’s important that he’s focused 9-5 whereas I don’t have to work like that. However, I’m exhausted by the evenings and can’t work then. He’s also tired because he’s been working all day so he’s reluctant to take DD out for a walk.

I'm hardly seeing mine.

Although he did have a bizarre 5 minute rant last night that if he was stuck in the house then he knows I'll have him grafting in it and he's glad he's working. I didn't bite.

He did admit that he was scared afterwards and came for cuddles. Horrible to see my husband like that and not much I can do about it.

My main bugbear with DP is the complete lack of regard for the fact we're not free to go out and replace everything he eats and drinks!!

We did a big shop in Tesco last Thursday, including snacks and drinks that were meant to last a good few days. Within 24 hours he'd eaten 2 of the 3 big bags of peanuts we'd bought. That's just one example. He's also going through the box of beers we bought too quickly.

The thing is he won't just suck it up when it runs out, he'll want to go and replenish and I'm really trying to stick to going for one shop per week and just doing walks the rest of the time.

He's also not getting ready properly in the morning so any walk we're going to do ends up pushed way into the afternoon.

For once dp is not annoying me at all in the week, he’s still working so I’m not seeing him much. Our weekend routine is the same as always: he games all weekend. He has always spent his weekends doing this, but doesn’t go to bed at 3am @Zola1223 he’s up till 5/6 usually. I normally go out with the dc, see my mum or grandma but now we’re all stuck in the house.
I had a word and said we shouldn’t have to listen to him shouting with his mates all weekend, and to be fair he came off, had tea with us and has kept the noise down (slightly) He will never change and I knew he was a big gamer when we met. It bothers me more now that I have to stay in and listen to it. You have my sympathies op!

Mine is the same OP. Both in Seperate rooms and on his games/guitar I am in the livingroom he is staying awake watching TV/ games/ YouTube leaving me on my own in bed and he is sleeping through the day 😠 he has always had difficulty sleeping but it's worse now we are both not working . He is also leaving mess in the room too your not alone!!
Just try have a laugh and cuddle at some point.... I am questioning my 7 year relationship too! 😠😠 Xxx
Kind of be glad to get back to work! X

Chinks123

Ah, see mine was big on going out etc. Lived to surf and go clubbing. Not anymore.

There is literally no good time to try and start a conversation. I'm always interrupting SOMETHING.

Sorry to hear you're suffering the same.

Mine's here but he is literally in his office 9-5 except for his 'finished on the phone' break which is where he comes in and tells me a) what he's just done, b) what he's going to do next and c) what he would like to do but can't. And then makes a coffee and disappears back to his office

I'm bored today and would quite like a chat with someone but everyone's working from home! I work 6-8 (tutor) so when everyone finishes for the day, I'm just starting!

Apart from being a bit mopey at home (but so is everyone) I’ve loved having so much time together. Definitely in the minority here!

Honestly not too bad.

Does have form for walking into the living room where I am, turning the tv on, selecting something he would choose to watch, and then buggering off back to his office 5 minutes later leaving me the Startrek TNG or something.

Now, I'm not opposed to TNG, but if I'd wanted it on I would have done it myself - and I don't watch things I've not seen the start of (even if I've seen it before), it bugs me.

Whereas DH will happily watch the last half of a film.

Mine isn't annoying me at all
He's a sweetheart

I usually work from home in a specific room for the purpose, but can’t now due to the lockdown. DH is able to work from home so he’s set up his computer and files in ‘my’ room and he’s moved all my stuff! I used to keep it so clean and tidy, now it’s a mess! 😫

Nothing, he's been great...but we are used to spending time together in the school holidays, he can and does cook/clean and parent etc

He's meant to be at work but had symptoms on sunday so has started isolating. He seems absolutely fine now and is playing on a game the whole time

I'm not with mine & am really missing him! I'm sure he'd be annoying me if he was here but I'd rather he was here than not. He's just been furloughed too so really want to give him a big hug

Just existing really.

Love him to bits but love him even more when he's not sat on his arse in front of the telly all day.

Well I've moved back in with xh temporarily, we usually have the dc 50/50 and I didn't want them carted backwards and forwards, or one of us not seeing them.

He's actually not annoying me because we're both doing our own thing. I don't feel the need to spend time with him, we're both cooking, cleaning and washing up, which if we had still been together would have all fallen to me. He's finishing off lots of jobs, and as I still own the house that's an advantage for me!

Still no chance of reconciliation but things could definitely be worse!

Mine has inexplicably turned into a character from a TV show. Everytime he enters a room he declares “Oi, Oi, Oi”. It’s weird and annoying.

Mine is constantly saying he's bored. In this house, any mention of the B word gets rewarded with a chore to do, so I'm working him hard. We have SO MUCH diy to do, there will be no bored.

We have separate rooms for working in, so mostly we have a work routine and that is fine. However, outside of that I fail to understand how DH can always be standing in front of something I need to get to. Kettle? Standing by the counter. Sink? Ditto. Utility room to sort the washing - on his phone right in front of the door. It’s every single day. How is he doing this??