How is YOUR DP/H getting on your nerves in this lockdown?

[Zola1223]

Mine is playing video games all day and sometimes well into the night. The other day he came to bed at 3am and woke me up. We've not DTD once since the lockdown because his computer is sooooo much more important/interesting than his DW.

He's forgotten how to cook we used to take it in turns to make dinner but now I seem to be doing everything. When I asked him to cook the other day he managed to cock it all up.

He's also not replaced the toilet paper on 3 separate occasions

Tell me I am not the only one questioning my marriage

I'm working from home and looking after kids. Husband is working but not for much longer from what I'm been told hes nasty stressed and his ocd has got worse and hes drinking more and has just been told he has a fatty liver. Apparently Monday was his day off and on sunday I wasnt allowed much dinner as he wanted to save it so I didn't end up with dinner so kids could have it monday (loads of food in btw) oh and i wasnt allowed relish on my dinner because i wouldn't put lid on right anyways its pushed come to shove and I'm done. Roll on when he decides to move out!

1. Mouth noises.
2. Asking me what I've eaten to give himself permission to eat something if I have eaten.
3. Constantly on his phone and giving half non-sensical answers.
4. singing the songs that the kids are playing on Alexa all day long- as if we haven't already fucking heard them enough.
5. Saying "just tell me what to do" (then not doing it anyway)

He keeps standing in front of the cupboard I want to open.

He keeps dancing to the songs on the radio.

He watches old episodes of Top Gear.

wasnt allowed much dinner as he wanted to save it so I didn't end up with dinner so kids could have it monday (loads of food in btw)

He didn't let you eat?

Refusing to take the situation seriously. Still seeing friends and family including some who fall into the 'vulnerable' category.

Kissing me 100 times each day. Drives me crazy. Can’t walk past him without a cuddle.

My DH has started saying “I beg your pudding” when he hasn’t heard something. Why? Whyyyyy? Twenty nine years of marriage and suddenly “I beg your pudding” comes out of the blue

Kill him

Me and DP getting on well especially in light of people stranded on the other side of the world but he STILL isn't washing his hands enough and goes silent and sulky when I remind him. He'll come up beside me as I'm doing mine and be done before me, and I'll go "how did you manage that, I've only counted to 15!". Apparently I "count slowly" horseshit

Where do begin? Have finally had to accept that all the new hobbies/DIY jobs/projects he was definitely going to take up when he 'had time' are never going to happen. World class procrastinator.
Why does he always put the new loo roll on the wrong way round?
Will he never learn not to stir his coffee and then put the spoon down on the worktop?

He keeps eating the kids snacks. We’re isolating because DS2 has symptoms. We have plenty of food to keep going (and regular deliveries of bread and milk) but for some reason he insists on eating their snacks multiple times a day. DS is autistic and will lose his shit if they run out before isolation ends and we can get to the shops. Does that stop him? Oh no. If I catch him with another bastard fruit winder in his hands he’ll be under that patio before he can get the wrapper off. Trouble is he know me too well, and knows I have a load of snack stashed away....wouldn’t have to hide them if DH would stop eating them all! Then when I tell him to stop eating he goes all DM sad face asking where his snacks are. He’s 40 ffs, I’m fairly sure he won’t fade away from lack of snacking opportunities 🙄

@ipswichwitch

I’m on the fence with that one. My mum used to buy things in that she knew DSis and I would like. If my dad went anywhere near them, she’d tell him off. It would make me feel awful because she always bought too many so why couldn’t he enjoy it too? It’s something that makes me feel really uncomfortable when people ‘aren’t allowed’ to eat something.

I understand that these are unusual circumstances and your DS has ASD though which is why I’m on the fence.

He isn’t annoying me at all actually, which is great...but I’m annoying myself! I’ve fallen into a lazy slump and somehow struggling to get washed and dressed everyday...out of pure laziness but I can’t get out of it! He has passed a few comments about it which you think would kick me up the bum...but no

We're not used to spending much time together at all. We usually work when each other isn't and have big blocks of time where we have one on one time with dd. It always takes a bit of tense time to adapt to sharing rules, sharing chores and sharing each dd with each other! The start of all holidays are fraught for example. Now DH is on furlough, I can't do one of my part-time jobs and have now been set up to do the other one from home. DD and I had a temperature last week so we're all literally in the house or garden for 14 days.

DH is still staying up too late and complaining when DD gets up at 6am which isn't even that early, at least not to me who's been getting up with her for 3 years.

It's ok, DH should be working abroad in China, he is Homebased for now but is like a bloody lark, he does his calls with his team very early which is fine but we have had several words about 4-5am noisy unloading of dishwasher!
Also Quest on TV every afternoon and he is a bit OCD about floors etc, DS 23 and I just try to ignore some of the more irritating traits. Also expectation of regular meals and snacks eaten very enthusiastically followed by "I'll put on weight".
Evenings very peaceful, he is asleep by 8 on the sofa, watching Quest 😡

BeingATwatItsABingThing
It’s ok, DS is unaware this is going on, at least until there’s none left anyway! He does have a fairly limited diet so I want to keep them all for him. Not going to happen if DH keeps kicking them!

*Nicking them

Laying into food as if there is loads in the cupboard and scraping his knife and fork on his plate !

His voice. I've never noticed how annoying it it, and how loud!
He also goes through a period a few times a day where he tries to wind everyone up for his own amusement, but that's nothing new, just more frequent at the moment.

This morning dd was up at 6.40am and tried to get the duvet off me, while I was trying to persuade her otherwise dh pipes up "I'm sick of this, you're lucky we're your parents because I would have got a good hiding". When I said that would have been totally out of line, he said it stopped him waking his parents up. My mum was always pleased to see me and always made us feel like we were the most important people in her world. I grew up confident and successful, my dh grew up angry and lazy. Why can't he see that?!

I am so bloody glad I'm not enduring lockdown with ex. He's abusive, so it would have been a nightmare. DC and I are getting on just fine without him.

DH is a hospital manager so our usual routine hasn't changed all that much. I've been furloughed and he's been off all week with suspected COVID so we are spending all day with each other and to be honest we are getting on really well.

I think it's because there is no pressure to be productive and no usual competition about who is the most tired. We are lucky to live in the middle of nowhere so plenty of space to be safely outside. We also have one 12 year old DD who is quite a self starter so no child care issues.

I know it's horrible out there but on a personal basis, we've had it worse.

It’s really mean to be moaning about each other at a time like this, everyone is stressed, so it’s to be expected, just give each other a little more slack. We will get through it.

Hes working from home.....set a desk up in the lounge and moans he cant get away from home/work setting!! He has the news on 'loud' all day on the radio and it's making him even more miserable than he normally is!! Complains when we want to watch TV so we all have to separate and go to different rooms!
Smokes loads during the day and weed at night, we have two high risk children yet he still smokes!!
I'm already looking at houses to escape to when it's over!! Ha ha......
Divorce rate is definitely going to go up once this is over, we arent married thankfully but will defo be separating!!

We had a row about housework this morning, then he stormed off to work without saying bye. Sigh.

Works from 8-9. Longer than what he works when in the office. I'm starting to feel pissed off because i can't go out anywhere, not even for a walk, it just makes me feel on my own.

It's the endless cups of tea which gets me, always with a new teaspoon which he leaves on the tea towel near the sink!

Slurping said tea when it is boiling hot.

Greasy fingerprints on the fridge from the number of times he opens it to get milk out.

Sighing all the time.

Endless hours peering at his phone or laptop - when I ask what he is working on he says he is just messing around!

Made a long list of jobs which need doing, but only does the ones which he finds 'interesting'!

Arghhh.