DP Celebrity Crush

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Hi,

I wonder if I am overreacting due to general stress at the moment but my DP is really annoying me.

I’m currently going through therapy due to past bullying issues which have left me with low self esteem. My self esteem was also compounded by my DP telling me that I was average looking.

Over the past week he has developed a celebrity crush. It’s ridiculous. He won’t stop going on about how beautiful she is. I asked him not to talk about how beautiful she is but he has just ignored this.

I understand that he will find other women attractive- that’s normal. I just don’t want it shoved down my throat all the time when I’ve asked him not to.

He is watching a tv programme she is in on the Netflix I pay for (we don’t live together). He messaged me last night again to tell me about how good looking she is.

Is this normal behaviour and AIBU to be upset by this?

Thanks for any advice.

Also, I know this is trivia compared to what is happening in the world right now but it’s upsetting me. Apologies if this offends anyone - that’s not my intention.

Maybe you should tell him. He is not trying to spare your feelings.

Anyway you don’t live together. Go into self-isolation and don’t see him any more.

Dump him and tell him it's because hes below average looking. Yes most people are average looking but if you are in a relationship with someone they should be above average looking to you, and even if you know they are average you should consider them above average, otherwise why would you be with them?

Wow he sounds like right prick, get rid!! Who the frig wants to make a partner feel low and shit about themselves???

Bit weird u won't say who it is though, I'm very curious, my partner wouldn't admit to who he found attractive but when teased about how it must be someone weird he said he thought holly willoughbooby was cute, can't say I blame him, bit of a girl crush on her myself 🤣

Base-line: a relationship should make you feel good. Marie Kondo your life.

I think the issue is yours ultimately and working on your self esteem would be really helpful but he is being a bit of a dick the way he’s going about it.

I’m petty af so I’d change the Netflix password!

He's plain nasty! I mean why would you tell anyone that you have a crush and go on about how beautiful they are

@RandomMess I know - it’s like he’s a teenager. It’s honestly such a turn off for me.

It sort of doesn't even matter that this is about him finding another woman attractive. You've told him that he's hurting you by doing something he could easily stop, but he prefers to continue hurting you.

That's a deal breaker.

No wonder! What a twat.

I honestly think it's to keep you on your place thinking you don't deserve better!!

Ditch him.

Well done on changing the password. I'd have done the same.

I know we're living in weird times, but I'd be tempted to take this time and distance to figure out whether your life is nicer without him in it.

(Also, Netflix marathon of your own ;))

Sounds like he's deliberately playing on your insecurities for whatever reason. I suggest you socially distance yourself from him permanently.

Please tell us who is is! I don’t know why you wouldn’t want to lol it doesn’t affect anything ? What would telling us do?

I don’t actually know her name. She is in a tv show called Rain I think? About a queen?

I bet it’s her?

I don’t know - I have no idea what she looks like!

Well you said you didn’t want to say her name. So what’s her name ?

So he’s repeatedly referring to this actress but you don’t know her name or what she looks like.
Seems odd but ok.

Tell him she wouldn't know him if he stood up in her soup and farted the national anthem, let alone actually feel anything for him in return. Mid Life Crisis in trousers.

Rain or reign ?

I remember having a crush on Wonder Woman when I was 13! Haven't had one since and I'm now 48. He is sad and you deserve a lot better.

Ugh my sister's boyfriend did this the first time I met him. Twenty years later he's highly emotionally abusive, she's cut off all her family and most of her friends. He's a complete cunt.

Most of us are average looking.
Look around the crowds.
I would say also most beautiful woman are not so beautiful without war paint.
Find someone who things you look beautiful to them

Yuck! What a horrible man, if he cared about you he would respect your wishes and not mention her. This is not normal behaviour from a man of his age; or any man for that matter.
I'd ditch him OP, you can do so much better than him, he is projecting his ugly bastardness onto you as he probably knows you are too good for him, he is deliberately trying to lower your self esteem so you stay with him! You need a gold medal for putting up with him for so long.
Good on you for changing the password, any of us would've done the same thing.
I'm glad to hear you are going to therapy, I hope this helps you realise your worth.
Keep yourself busy and enjoy your own company, you'll soon see how much better you feel without a deluded twat in your ear.

Oooooh all the women in Reign are impossibly beautiful.

If it makes you feel better then explain to him that historically the characters were actual CHILDREN. He's crushing on a character who was 13 in real life.