Gave him another chance ..pointless wasn't it?

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I was seeing someone and he didn't treat me very well,I put up with it but then finally thought "screw this"
He would pick and choose when he could be bothered with me.
So I started moving on,and actually was ok without worrying about him.
Then after a month we started speaking again.
I thought he was sorry,he realised he was on to a good thing with me etc
At first he was giving me lots of attention etc
Now 5 weeks later back to normal
Him picking and choosing when he wants to speak,ignoring me when he wants etc
Today he's out with his friends for a stag do.
He's drinking already..so I won't hear a peep all day from him.
I can't be arsed
I know I deserve more than this
Yet here I am ..checking for texts from him.
Would you bother?
When you know he's a waster?

You're not sat at home like an idiot

Set yourself free from this tosser once and for all.

You shouldn't have waited until he struck the final blow

Your self esteem would be much stronger right now if you had told him to stuff it the 1st time he revealed himself as the knob he is

Seriously OP this guy has trash stamped on his forehead in bright red ink. Raise your bar by a million miles and then some.

Don't bother having it out with him over the phone, just turn your back and drop him for good this time.

Dump him, block him and move on from him

What are you even asking the question? You're worth more

Don't be the fall back girl - he knows he can treat you badly, and you'll take it and all he has to do is say sorry.

This. Don't you dare do this again!

Being single is so, so, so much better than the shitty ominous constant dread of being with someone who is just a waste of your energy.

"I've been thinking and I don't want to continue the relationship, I've decided I want a clean break so please respect my decision. Good luck with everything."

Send and block.

He'll not give a shiny shit and he can do whatever the fuck he likes while you can move on and forget about him - life's too short for pricks like him to sap your headspace.

You gave him another chance because that was the kind and human thing to do, and I guess, because you would always have wondered "what if" if you hadn't - although giving him the Order of the Boot first time round would have been perfectly justified too. Everyone, well, nearly everyone, is capable of seeing the light and improving themselves if they want to. As it turns out, as you say in your thread title, it was pointless because he didn't want to. So now, it's onward and upward without him again. You've been there once before, you know the way. There are plenty of lovely men who won't treat you like a casual hobby instead of a human being. I raised four of 'em myself.

Seriously, even a stag do isn't an excuse to drink at 8am - who the fuck drinks that early? Dumping him is a bullet dodged.

The decisions you make as to who you allow into your life are really important and have a lifelong affect on your mental (and often financial) health.

Get rid of this complete loser now. If you want us to tell you what'll happen if you don't, I'm sure we could do that easily.

What a tosser pissing about with other tossers during a pandemic, drinking at 8am. You should be embarrassed of him and of being seen with him.

How old are you both op? This reads like something teenage, from both of you. But the age of your father would indicate maybe not. Unless he was a much older dad?

For heavens sake dump this useless twerp,block his calls and don't look back.

Yep - dump him and keep away from him. He’s a reckless idiot out socialising in this climate. It’s true that Corona virus is manageable for many but it’s a killer for some and the latter group seems to be growing. That’s why we’re supposed to be practising social distancing. But this guy is clearly too self-centred to care about how his behaviour might harm others.

What an absolute loser. You will look back and be really embarrassed if you don't cut this dead right now. Don't give him a load of heartfelt words, be as cold as ice and then block. He's had his ego fed by you enough already.