OH calls me a fat ugly bitch

[loosingtheplott]

Not been feeling well today cold symptoms over the past few days and today I was knackered I never nap in the day but I fell asleep on the sofa. He's moaning that I've not done dinner so I get up and start peeling the potatoes but I just wasnt feeling good so I just got up and left it.

He's lost his shit saying I never do anything properly I'm just a faker I'm always ill blardy blah (I have a blood disorder)

I just flipped and threw a potato at him he's been moaning at me since I picked him up from work. I've put the dinner on and come upstairs. He said fuck off to bed you ugly fat fucking bitch. He says it every time we have an argument.

Not really sure what the point of this post was just feeling a bit down.

You need to leave this relationship as soon as possible, it’s awful, don’t spend your life like this.

He's a shit of the first order.
Don't let him do it - leave or make him leave.
Bastard! You deserve much better- everyone does. He is bottom of the pile of men. Vile.

That is horrific. Can’t you get out?

Next time just cook for yourself.

Good grief! He has no respect for you whatsoever. Bin!

Pack your bag & go.

The point of this post is that you know, deep down, this isn't ok and is a horrible way to live. Don't believe what he tells you about yourself. Are you in a position to leave him? Are you married? Children? You didn't just come on here to moan, you came to be reassured that this is time to leave this man. (Believe me, I know from personal experience this week...) Hugs, and stay strong xx

OP my ex used to use those exact words to me. I'm a big girl and whenever we had an arguement which was most days he would call me that. My confidence was at rock bottom and I felt worthlessential, he would also say it in front of our kids too.

Last summer I ended our marriage. I have never felt lighter or freer. I haven't lost weight but I feel about 10st lighter in my head. He won't stop it, they never do. Leave him, your life will change for the better.

What
He keeps calling you this
What are you doing not sorting leaving after the first few times

Serious question - why do you stay?

How long have you been together, do you have dc. Looks like you are not married as you call him oh. What's the housing situation. Trying to find if you can leave easily. A man who loves you would never speak to you like that.

Ugh, he's a pig, isn't he? Is there somewhere else he can go to?

What a prick.

Get rid of him. Life is too short to be unhappy and he is not making you happy.

Do not waste your life with this dickhead.

I wasted five years with one and I am still gutted I did that. Please just leave him and be happy.

He sounds fucking vile.

Ugly personality. You can do a whole
Lot better on your own for a bit without someone like that.

Sending hugs xx

Please PLEASE don't stay with him.

This for him is now habit, normal ok behaviour, he is not shocked, ashamed or remorseful, this is now an ok thing for him to do. And every time he has a temper tantrum these hurtful disgraceful words come flying out of his mouth as if on cue. How he’s allowed himself to sink to this level, heaven knows. I’m so very sorry you are in the receiving line. Leaving a marriage is absolutely huge, I am loathe to suggest it, but if he refuses to reassess his behaviour, I agree that if nothing changes, nothing changes. Best wishes, you are worth so much more than these degrading outbursts by someone lacking in patience.

Nah.

You don't stoop that low in arguments and expect the other person to stay. Would he stay if you called him a short arsed, small dicked ugly fkr.

Hope you got a good hit in with the potato.

And you are still there?

That spud should have knocked him out. Practice your aim!!

Ok look I call my husband a cunt when we argue but that’s a generic non specific insult.
If he even dared to call me those words, it wouldn’t be a fucking potato he’d be dodging.
Get out. You are worth more.

That's horrible, losingtheplot. He's mean. You're not well. There was nothing to stop him putting together a meal for both of you. Had he just come in from work or was he at home today?

If it was a one off I'd say these are tense times and people are on a short fuse - not excusing but explaining. However you say he always says that.

What a bully! It's hardly the time for you or he leaving but please do seriously consider parting from this disgusting oaf when the current crisis is over and people can move about freely again. You will feel better without him!

BYE.

Would you tolerate a stranger calling you a fat ugly bitch? Surely it's much worse from someone that is supposed to like you and care about you.

Get the fecker out before we all get stuck in a lockdown and you are trapped with him day in day out for months.

He is abusive. Leave him.

I think he was wrong for calling you names but you were in the wrong too for throwing a potato at him - that could be classed as physical abuse.
You obviously don't like each other so why are you still together? Just leave and find someone better lifes too short.

I’m also curious op why are you still together. It does seem you dislike each other intently. No one who likes you calls you a fat ugly bitch and I doubt you like him because of it.

So why are you both together. Is it financial?

Lord! When I was pregnant with my first DH had to get takeaway and eat in the car when I was 15w because I couldn't stand the smell of food cooking due to HG - he never complained once. Your partner is an unsupportive bellend and his behaviour isn't normal.