My husband and I have our own bedrooms as we work different shifts and our sleep was getting greatly affected. We both agree that we get the best nights sleep sleeping on our own and this is not an issue. I had my suspicions that he had been going into my room whilst I was out the house and going through my things. So I positioned things in my bedroom (mainly a bunch of paperwork that was not interesting) in a specific way and took pictures for reference. When I came home I noticed that the paperwork had been moved significantly. A couple of days later I said to my husband that I was not accusing him of doing anything, but it was important that he understood it was not acceptable to me for him to ever go in my room and go through any of my things without asking me. He acted shocked and confused and denied doing such things. Sadly he has flat out lied to my face on a few occasions so I wasn’t surprised by his response.
I also have an organiser and I had noted down in there a couple of things which my husband could not have possibly known about. One day recently my husband randomly referenced one of the things I had in my planner. It is impossible that it was a coincidence, and I am confident that if I put some things in place I would easily be able to establish that he goes through my planner regularly.
I find my husband to be a very secretive person, and I wonder if this is him projecting, or if he is just being downright nosey? All I know is that it does not sit well with me that he goes through my things. I am contemplating putting a lock on my door and encouraging him to do the same to his bedroom, although it saddens me that this is what I am having to resort to.
I just wondered how others feel about the situation, as perhaps others wouldn’t mind if their husband did go through their things? Am I being unreasonable? Should I just allow it to continue? Is this an issue?