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Original poster

Husband out now, forgot his phone, illegal to view his texts?

81 replies

SheilaBGoingSoon · 04/03/2020 11:03

I swear something it going on n he never usally leaevs his phone an i think i know the unlock pattern thingy... is it illegal for me to look?

thanks!

OP posts:
Bodear · 04/03/2020 13:00

Are you ok OP?

Lynda07 · 04/03/2020 13:03

I presume you have grounds for suspicion, Sheila.

It's a difficult one but if you really are concerned that something is going on, nobody would blame you for looking. Whether it is illegal or not isn't relevant, he's hardly going to report you to the police - if he finds out.

It's not a situation I have been in, I also have a very strong need for privacy and respect that of others. However if I strongly suspected something dodgy I'm pretty sure I sure I would investigate.

Good luck.

kateandme · 04/03/2020 13:04

everyone i have read on here has found out this way.sorry.

HollowTalk · 04/03/2020 13:07

I would have done that in a flash. I don't see the point in taking the high moral ground when the other person is treating you badly.

ISpeakJive · 04/03/2020 13:08

Shortest thread ever...

Original poster
SheilaBGoingSoon · 04/03/2020 13:15

i'm ok. ta

OP posts:
CrispyDorothy · 04/03/2020 13:16

Oh no! Poor you. Hope you're ok and you gett he support you need x

BlastEndedSkrewt · 04/03/2020 13:17

actually I believe it is illegal to access someone else's phone without their permission.

NoMoreDickheads · 04/03/2020 13:20

What else is going on/what did you discover OP? If you feel able to share. xx

Well done for deciding to end it. x

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 04/03/2020 13:25

I dont care if it is illegal. I've looked in the past when suspicious and yep he was cheating

Dontunderestimateme · 04/03/2020 13:27

If you have good reason to suspect something is going on, and he has gone out without his phone, I would suspect he has a second phone anyway, so you would be unlikely to find anything on the one he's left.

NeverKnewThat · 04/03/2020 13:28

Do you have some rl support ?

Sorry this has happened to you.

There are lots of us here this has happened to so if you need the support you will get some great advice here. Flowers

Rosalo · 04/03/2020 13:36

It's not illegal.

I hope you're okay OP Thanks

Lynda07 · 04/03/2020 13:43

Take care, op.

AcrossthePond55 · 04/03/2020 13:48

Well, by 'I'm out' I hope you mean out of the relationship. I wouldn't stay in one where I felt I had to be suspicious of my partner's/spouse's activities. It's not fair on you if he's doing dirty and it's not fair on him if he's not.

Hullygully · 04/03/2020 13:52

Why on earth shouldn't you look at your partner/husband's phone?

BlancoNita · 04/03/2020 13:58

Most annoying thread ever, cheers Sheila. Lol

mrsBtheparker · 04/03/2020 14:01

As long as you would be happy for him to snoop into your private business behind your back, maybe he has 'suspicions' about you that he could use to try and justify his actions. On MN we only ever get one side of the story of a relationship.

ShesCurly · 04/03/2020 14:02

Classic Sheila. I think we can assume from her username that OP was only ever here for a quick stay!

AmICrazyorWhat2 · 04/03/2020 14:05

I couldn't care less if DH snooped into my private business, because I have nothing to hide from him. I don't look at his phone, but I don't think it should be a huge deal in a marriage. Our lives are so intertwined anyway.

Knocksomesense · 04/03/2020 14:07

Can you give more detail, op

KitKat1985 · 04/03/2020 14:21

Personally I think if you reach a point where you feel you have to check your partners phone, then the relationship is already dead in the water.

LemonTT · 04/03/2020 14:48

It is illegal to read or intercept messages / emails/ voicemail on someone’s phone without their permission. It’s why journalists went to prison.

Mumofthreewonderfulkids · 21/06/2024 14:50

SheilaBGoingSoon · 04/03/2020 11:03

I swear something it going on n he never usally leaevs his phone an i think i know the unlock pattern thingy... is it illegal for me to look?

thanks!

Yes this is illegal, to view someone’s else’s Mail whether through the mail or phone or electronic. So up to you. Just ask to look and if no problem then no problem 👍

JoJoAnnaGF · 21/06/2024 15:02

It probably is, but i'm no one to judge, I used xnspy to snoop on my husbands phone and found he'd been cheating on me with a minor. I use the app on my kid's phone now and caught some real creeps like him

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