Was this a bit flirty?

[Flairhead]

I signed up to OLD again a couple of weeks ago and yesterday I got a message from a guy I used to work with. We were in the same department for a while, didn't speak very much but I always thought he was good looking and I did fancy him, I think he liked me too, but I was with my now ex so nothing ever happened.

A few years ago he got married, then got a job with another company, so left and I haven't seen him since.

Then yesterday, he messaged me through the OLD site saying 'looks like both our marriages have gone to shit. Good luck' followed by a thumbs up emoji. We exchanged a few messages, general catching up, and he said there were always vacancies at his company and I could easily move up to supervisor level within a year, finishing by saying 'I could even interview you' followed by a laughing emoji.

I do like this guy, although I'm not looking to move jobs, but could this maybe be interpreted as a bit flirty? In which case should I keep chatting? I thought maybe leave it to the end of the week and send a message just saying hi, how are you, etc.

Urgh, I'm so bad at this. Advice welcome!

I'd have replied with something like thought this was a dating site not LinkedIn. I'm on here to find a new bloke not a new job 🤣

It's flirting - its what is supposed to happen

Why don’t you reply back with something like “sounds good, want to meet up to discuss it” lol and see where it takes you xx

Lots of companies give employees a referral bonus if they introduce a candidate who subsequently gets hired, so perhaps that's what he had in mind - seems odd to be trying to 'sell' his company to you otherwise.

I would steer clear because he sounds grubby and underhanded.

Although I'm single, so don't listen to me!

You have connections with each other and he's using those to imply meeting (probably too) subtly so yes I'd say it was flirty.

Please don't ever message 'lol' unless you're 12

I don’t think he’s linking the job opportunity to anything potentially romantic.

Nothing you’ve written in your OP would make me think he’s flirting.

I think he wouldn't have contacted you via OLD website if he wasn't a bit interested

Think the referral suggestion is a bit cynical

Keep.chatting, keep it friendly and see where it goes!

He is flirting

Definitely flirting. Message back saying why not discuss this over a coffee at the weekend and see what he says.

That's what I wondered mama, if he wasn't at all interested surely he'd have just seen my profile, thought 'oh I used to work with her' and thought no more of it! I did have a look at a few vacancies and there are one or two that might be of interest so I'll maybe give it a few days and then say something like, 'I got curious so I had a look and this caught my eye', and take it from there.

It's a weird one because we didn't really speak very much when we worked together, we just had no reason to and we didn't sit close to each other so never really chatted much either. But you know how sometimes you just get that feeling when you think someone likes you? I'm aware I sound like a teenager by the way.....

I think he's trying to get you to interact with him with what you have in common. I would chat with him about saying, relationships, what he's looking for etc.

I'm not convinced that he's flirting ... it's the 'good luck' at the end of the first message which makes me think that. But there's no harm in seeing where a bit of chat leads to.

I thought the same with the "good luck" as pp

I don’t think he was flirting.

Don’t mix business and (potential) shagging.

This doesn’t sound flirty to me, but nothing ventured nothing gained

Do you wish to apply for a job at his company, if yes. Don’t take the flirty thing any further.

If no. Then say I’m ok on the job, thanks though, but what about a date?

My thoughts were to ask about the job, maybe get some more info about it, because it does at least seem like a job I could do, even if I decide to stay where I am. If nothing else it gives me an excuse to talk to him!

sounds like he's being friendly and wishing you good luck in dating. If he was interested, why bring the whole job thing into it?? He'd just say ' want to catch up over coffee?' or at least chat generally not invite you to a job interview!

I think he's using work as a talking point because its something you have in common. I would say take it away from work chat and she if he carries on the combo or takes it back to work talk

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It doesn’t sound flirty to me

Nope not at all sorry.

The fact that he wrote to you at all on this site is flirty. He is using the job as a way to make contact. People are so intrenched in the direct methods of OLD that they have forgotten about subtlety (putting an exploratory toe into the water to see if the other person is interested).

Not flirty, he saw you there and acknowledged it so its not awkward. Take any job discussion off OLD

I'm starting to think maybe I wasn't very clear. The bit I'm wondering about being flirty was 'I could even interview you ', not him telling me about a job in general. Without that last bit I definitely wouldn't be wondering!