To feel hurt by this oversight?

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We are a blended family of 5 children - me and my dds, 12 and 10 and ds 8. My dp and his dd, 3 and ds 7. My family aren't interested in my dc and rarely visit. Dp has very involved and caring parents who visit the grandchildren weekly and like to organise days out etc. I'm finding it really painful seeing what a lovely involved grandparent can be like when my dc don't have that, but I'm doing my best to get involved and hopefully we can all have a great relationship with DPs parents too. DP's mum came today for lunch - we cooked and she had some time with us all. When she left she shouted goodbye to her two grandchildren and said nothing to my dc. I know it was probably an oversight, but I feel a bit hurt . She isn't usually thoughtless.

Sorry for the random MENU at the top of my post. I copied this from AIBU as I thought it might fit more in relationships.

I think it’s to be expected that you feel a bit hurt, but it’s what you do with it that matters. As you say you’re seeing up close what a good relationship looks like and it’s painful when your own kids don’t have it in the same way.

I’d try and focus on the usually kind and thoughtful part. Don’t forget she might be thinking about how her DGC’s are sharing their dad, and struggling a bit with that. We’re all fighting our own battles internally.

If his youngest is three, how long have you been together/ living together?