How should a FWB situation work?

[AKAFWB]

Someone has asked me out. I've known him for quite a few years, and we've been physically interactive on occasion, but I was always reluctant to to take it further for a few reasons and now there are even more reasons that a relationship probably wouldn't suit me.

But I'm wondering if I should go and just see what happens? Whether a casual arrangement would be nice for a while? But how does that work? Is it just a case of going on dates and spending time together etc, but ultimately both being free to do as you please elsewhere?

I'm not sure it would work for me, as I don't fall for people often, but if I do, I really do. While I like this guy, I don't feel as strongly as I have for others, but I don't know if that's because he doesn't seem the type to play games with me.

Any advice?

But friends go for dinner, no?!

No idea following as I could have written the op

I actually don't know what he wants. He said he's always like me and actually suggested going for dinner and drinks and maybe having a snog

He's just asked on a casual date. If you like him then go, see how it goes and then decide what to do next!

FWB is a very clear understanding between two people where they both know exactly what the score is. This is just a first date with no pressure!

OP you sound lovely and I say this with kindness... chill out

First date nerves. You are afraid of rejection so you want to write it off already.
Take a leap. Could be something or nothing.

What @ThirtyAndASmidgen said. I had a very nasty 'F' WB situation.

There are some threads about it but for instance, once I was chatting to him as a friend about something quite deep, and when I paused or was expecting him to reply to what I was chatting about, he said:-

' That's good now s my c '

The whole relationship was like that- he pretended to be my friend but he wasn't.

He was an extreme user basically and when he didn't get what he wanted he became less 'friendly.'

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3800172-Is-it-ok-for-a-lover-to-ask-repeatedly-for-sex-acts-he-knows-you-dont-want

If you go for it, insist on them treating you with respect. The first time they let you down as a friend or talk/act in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable, walk away.

Aww, he likes you OP! It sounds more like he's carried a bit of a torch for a while, but the friend connection to your brothers makes it a bit awkward. On the plus side there's very little chance of him messing you around because siblings (either sex) tend to take a dim view of other sibling being 'pissed about' 😁. If you like him just go for a drink and take it from there?

Thanks all.

And @Skierrdery probably more than a hint of truth in that.

I feel it's doomed to failure, so would be best to just enjoy it on the most basic level, if at all.

My FWB situation ended really unpleasantly a month ago. What started as strictly FWB, ended up with us both falling pretty hard. Well, certainly I did, he said he had too, but given he ghosted me, it seems he fed me a load of bull to ensure the sex remained on tap - which there was no need to do given it was meant to be FWB.

We messaged all day, went to dinner, planned holidays and weekends away though so definitely crossed that line. I'd not rush into another one personally I'm clearly not cut out for it!

@edwinbear how long were you FWB's?

I'm not sure I'm cut out for it either. I think I probably need the emotional side of things.

@AKAFWB 5 months, but known him for a lot longer. All very messy and upsetting - although it was really awesome in the midst of it!

We messaged all day, went to dinner, planned holidays and weekends away though so definitely crossed that line.

@Edwinbear I did all that with my narcissist 'F'WB but he was still using me for sex, plus an ego boost. He just put a lot of work into it so he got what he wanted- maybe he enjoyed the deception.