Now it's time to get naked - and I'm wobbly :( please help!

[CakesRus3]

I'm 42 years old, a size 16 and I have a wobbly belly and my boobs are not too great (my bum either). I have 3 dd's (all teens) so I have stretch marks, which don't necessarily bother me, well maybe a little. I'm not your regular curvy lady (the ones you see in adverts, they look gorgeous), I'm flabby and stretched.
Anyway, I'm ok dressed. I actually have an ok head. I have been single forever. Dated lots but never found a connection along the way. Now, I have met someone who appears keen. I am too. He very much fancies me (so it appears anyway). We have dated lots, and now we are staying in a hotel Sat as we feel that it would be nice to spend the night together.
However, I am so nervous. I enjoy his company and feel relaxed with him. I just have such a big fear of him seeing me naked (or semi naked), that it makes me feel sad. I also question even wanting to be with anyone. It's obvious he can see that I'm not a skinny Minnie. I look ok in clothes.
I'm so scared. I want to be confident. I just feel so anxious about it. I'm never going to overcome this. He might think 'Ewww!'

He's a lucky dude. Never forget that OP.

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It’s normal OP, I’d be the same. It takes time to relax.

Have you made plans for other dates? Talked today?

Awwww I am actually smiling, feeling so happy reading all of your messages. Thankyou for all following and thankyou all so much for your kind words.

Yes, made plans and he has texted. He's playing golf today but still sent some texts.
I am probably just feeling vulnerable and it's good to hear others would feel the same.

OP, I was friends with DP for 18 years before we got together. I cant tell you how awkward the first few times were, largely because I was overthinking it, honestly it was like I'd never had sex before, so embarrassing. What happened was one he was soooooo patient. And one day I decided I wanted to be in charge and taking the control really helped and needless to say he enjoyed himself. And now it's amazing. So be patient with yourself too.

Most men LOVE the wobbly bits.

It's women who don't.

KurriKawari - aww really? Nice to read your message. I felt so good after reading my messages here but once it came to it, I could hardly undress. I was conscious of him touching my flabby parts. You could see he was questioning it in his head. Part of me wanted it to end before it started. It did get a little easier but it took a while. I hope he understands too and is patient. I just had it in my head that guys like confidence. I really wanted to be.

Cakes glad you enjoyed a nice evening, since yesterday plans have been made & texts received. All sounds good to me, stop overanalysing and look forward to speaking to the lucky man again soon

Next time get in that shower with him