Now it's time to get naked - and I'm wobbly :( please help!

[CakesRus3]

I'm 42 years old, a size 16 and I have a wobbly belly and my boobs are not too great (my bum either). I have 3 dd's (all teens) so I have stretch marks, which don't necessarily bother me, well maybe a little. I'm not your regular curvy lady (the ones you see in adverts, they look gorgeous), I'm flabby and stretched.
Anyway, I'm ok dressed. I actually have an ok head. I have been single forever. Dated lots but never found a connection along the way. Now, I have met someone who appears keen. I am too. He very much fancies me (so it appears anyway). We have dated lots, and now we are staying in a hotel Sat as we feel that it would be nice to spend the night together.
However, I am so nervous. I enjoy his company and feel relaxed with him. I just have such a big fear of him seeing me naked (or semi naked), that it makes me feel sad. I also question even wanting to be with anyone. It's obvious he can see that I'm not a skinny Minnie. I look ok in clothes.
I'm so scared. I want to be confident. I just feel so anxious about it. I'm never going to overcome this. He might think 'Ewww!'

What a lovely thread. Thank you OP.

Oh how brilliant. We can all relate to this OP. I hope you have a lovely time, you are clearly the only one who has doubts about your gorgeousness

If it’s not too weird, please tell us how it goes!! (I have no romantic life AT ALL so quite happy to live it vicariously through you-the cat is the only living thing in my bed that’s seen me naked for quite a few years!).

Take a slinky dressing gown and keep it casually by the side of your bed, then you don't have to do the naked toilet walk.

Aww I feel like I need to let you all know now. You have all been so lovely 😊

Thankyou, you have made me smile! Your lovely comments 😍
Oh, I haven't got a nice dressing gown. I always pop on an old over sized knitted cardigan to go downstairs in. I'm not used to this. Haha!

Have a wonderful time OP, you sound lovely

Is he an Adonis himself with washboard abs and all that stuff?

Have fun OP. I am jealous! I love this part of a relationship...nervous, excited..its so good. Enjoy. Every. Minute. Remember you are a wonderful women and this man is very excited to be with you!

Please let us know how it goes.... enjoy OP....

Oh and just to echo everyone else here. I am skinny, very small boobs, and a little belly from my 3 DCs. I am so conscious yet my DH cannot understand it for a second. He sees me so differently to how I see myself. I wouldn't waste lots of money on lingerie, they just take it straight off anyway but a baby doll is sexy and allows you some coverage at the start when things might feel a bit awkward then it can be whipped off easy as you get more comfortable

Thankyou all so so much :) your comments are helpful and kind.
(Lizzo currently playing on the radio haha!)
I will definitely let you all know how it goes.

Also came on to say I giggled at your description of your head. I bet you are gorgeous! Have loads and loads and loads of fun!!

Good luck, op! I want details!!!

I second sexy underwear. Dimming the lights also help. Enjoy it and have fun :)

Have a lovely night op.

Hope you're having a great time. I'm also wobbly and have stretch marks after kids but never had a problem attracting men. If they fancy you clothed, they fancy you even more naked. And if you think about it do you only ever fancy men with perfect flawless bodies? I honestly think little imperfections are what make us attractive.

How did it go OP

Hello everyone :) thankyou for your support. So lovely to read. I read the whole post again before I left yesterday. I'm glad you liked my head comment. I laughed back at that. All your kind words too, so lovely.
Today I'm filled with anxieties, replaying it in my head, hoping he like me just as much as it appeared he did before our night together. Is that normal to feel a little anxious the next day?
Soooo...I dressed myself up and felt good. I was excited driving there. I knew he was excited too. We went to a lovely pub and had wine and some food. The weather was awful so ended up going back to the hotel a little earlier (I know what you're all thinking but it really was). Even though I'd had wine, I still felt so so nervous. I quickly shut the curtains but the lights were on. So I suggested to turn them off searching for bed side lights. Whilst silently panicking, I found them and one lit up the bed. Oh god! I just could not relax for what seemed like a long time. It took me a while but finally managed to strip off yikkkessss (still cringing how long it took me, he couldn't understand why I wasn't getting undressed as quick as him).
It was lovely, I did enjoy myself, however found it difficult to telax. I did try, I promise. It appears he enjoyed himself. I hope he wasn't disappointed. He is so confident. He showered this morning with the door open, walked around naked (sorry if this is too much info but trying to compare how I was and now feel a little embarrassed). I shut the bathroom door, super conscious trying to get dressed without him seeing, oh god, I wish I had that confidence.
I know I shouldn't but I'm over analysing everything now and feel very on edge. Is this normal? Anyone else felt like that afterwards?
Thankyou everyone for your support :)

I don’t think that level of anxiety is quite normal- no. Not abnormal either but maybe a little further along the spectrum. Can you talk to him about it? Does he reassure you?

I think I would feel the same, don’t worry about it, the more you see one another the more relaxed it will get I’m sure.

Have you made any further plans? Are you keen to see him again?

I have mentioned it takes me a while to feel comfortable. Yes, he was reassuring.
I'm very eager to see him again, I really like him. The way he was talking last night, it appears he's enjoying spending time with me, which is nice. I have OD anxiety, I think. Just waiting for the catch (not had a great experience). People say when things are too good to be true, they usually are. I'm really trying to stay relaxed, see how it goes. I was relaxed on every date (apart from nerves lastnight). I feel a little uneasy today and not sure why that's all.

Maybe because it’s all a bit new, you like it, and you have a tendency to overthink? I’m the same. Don’t forget as well, maybe you’re a bit tired today

Yes, that is definitely it :)

I came on today just to find out how you got on OP! Was thinking of you

Totally normal to feel super anxious the next day. You let your guard down and took a big step forward....of course you'll feel a little exposed/vulnerable the next morning. I would too. As soon as you two talk next and everything is fine, I'm sure that anxiety will dissolve...x

Ps. Men are so confident aren't they!? Sometimes I look at DH strolling about letting it all hang out and think I would never do that!

He's a lucky dude. Never forget that OP.

That thing about things that are too good to be true usually are too good to b true? This isn't 'too good', just the start of what could be a lovely, normal relationship.