If your Ex said this to you...

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.. if you don't forgive me I will be dating other women then!

Back story: Together 5 years, committed relationship. Was found texting an old work colleague(woman) arranging to meet up for a meal out alone one evening, and lied about it. Wasn't sorry as she was 'just a friend'.
Decided he didn't want to be around anymore so just disappeared for 4 weeks, no care. Then after I took no more n gave up finally getting in contact& decides he wants me back and he's 'changed'

I'm very hurt & angry even now after 2 months. I don't see any positive changes. Attitude is swell the same. He then said in a few weeks he can't wait anymore and will start dating again

He sounds like he thought he could push your buttons and backtracked when he saw you werent that easily manipulated.
Get turned off by that OP

I actually believed he would go out and date other people. It's very hard right now as I was moving on and recently I've met him it's like he's got back into my head and wants to call all the shots etc. He's a very selfish self centred man who is no good for me amongst other things that have gone on. The prob is everyone loves him if they don't know how he treated me and my child when they find out they are like wow
I think I'm struggling to finally cut ties as 5 years was a long time.
He really isn't good for my mental health at all

Well, cut him off for your dc's sake, if not your own.

He sounds dreadful. You can do better x

Also don’t get sucked into the sunk costs fallacy.

The prob is everyone loves him if they don't know how he treated me and my child when they find out they are like wow

Think of your child if not yourself ! Wake up .

Does everyone e love him really??
I doubt it.
Perhaps people who don’t know him and maybe they too are shallow selfish idiots!

I would say "Sorry, I have no idea who you are" and slam the door in his face. There's no point in engaging with an ex, especially when they have disrespected you.

Screw everyone else.. everyone else isn't living with his bullying dominating gaslighting out downs... kick him to the kerb OP

Move along, nothing to see here.

You need to stop thinking or caring about what he does. He is in the past.

Thanks to all your advice 🙏🏻 I have come to my senses finally and got rid. Deleted blocked everything.

Good for you. You deserve better

If there's a child in all this definitely get rid and don't look back.

Well done, here's to a brighter future