Does anyone have an OH like mine? And why are they like this!?

[Mumofgals]

I have been with my OH for 15 years and we have one child together. Things haven't been great for a long time and initially I thought it was the strain of having a young child. My OH wont socialise with me, meaning we have NEVER been on a date/dinner with another couple or group. I find our life extremely boring as we have no mutual friends so have nothing to talk about other than the every day things of work etc. When we met I was only 17 so didn't mind only spending our time together as I had a very busy life out with the relationship but now with a child this isn't possible. I do all childcare & am the only driver so dont have much spare time. (This is due to OH working long shifts so I drop/collect from childminder and activities) I also work full time & do all the housework so unsure if I am feeling resentful about this or whether this lack of socialising is as strange as I think! I have essentially moved the goalposts as when younger I readily accepted that we didnt socialise but I am now in a position where I am bored with OHs company, and even when sitting together we dont really chat or have anything to say to eachother. He also doesn't go out with his friends often, or see his family despite us all getting along well. If someone visits us at home he makes it clear he isn't happy and it borders on rude. What is wrong with him!? Or is it me? I would like to make it work for our childs sake but ultimately I am bored and resentful. Any suggestions would be great!

I'm the introverted one in my relationship and as a result we don't socialise much together and my DH has a greater need for a social life then I do.

I don't begrudge him his social life and encourage him to go out with his friends as often as he wants to. I'm happy to do the childcare while he's gone, because it's my choice to live like this. He doesn't take the piss and contributes to our family and spends plenty of time with our child too.

It works for us because most of his friends have children and they tend to socialise as 'singles' rather then in their couples as it's hard to get childcare. I suspect this will change as our children grow up and I might make more of an effort to go out from time to time then.

So I guess the point I'm trying to make is, I think this would be fine for you if your DH was pulling his weight and didn't prevent you from having a social life - but it seems that isn't happening right now.