Hello, I am 22 weeks pregnant with first baby, I'm 29. I've been with DP 4 years. Pregnancy was a shock/ surprise, I found out at 12 weeks, I have been on the pill for over four years.
We just bought a house together in Sept which needs a lot of work, we currently don't have a bathroom for example and baby's room is back to brick.
We decided when we found out that we would get married, this mostly came from me as it's 'the right thing to do' and my family were very keen.
I'd say it's been a stressful time for both of us but it's really only for me, all house renovations, wedding planning (to a very small budget) and budgeting for both have fallen to me. DP takes no interest, often with the get out that he doesn't have the money right now (he put all his savings into the house deposit to be fair) or it was me that wanted it. When it suits his argument he will say that there was nothing wrong with the house for example which is completely untrue especially now we have a baby on the way.
Really he is very lazy and if i let him he would spend all his spare time at the gym, playing or watching football or playing xbox. In the four years we've been together I've been clear this isn't acceptable and I need more from him and he does help around the house etc but I have to tell him to do everything, the mental load is 100% me. I am losing a lot of respect for him I feel when I see how much me, my mum and dad and other men are willing to do while he sits there with a face on him because I've asked him to help me with something.
With the wedding and the house I have about three times in the last month reached breaking point and got upset and asked for his help or wanted some emotional (at least) support. Like anyone who's stressed perhaps this doesn't always come out in the perfect way.
He has always been incapable of dealing with any negative emotions from me, he blows up, blames me, often for creating a fuss about nothing or a problem when there isn't one, and then goes completely silent which is so frustrating and upsetting. He will then just go to sleep without a further word and probably be in a mood the next day too. A lot of the time I don't want a solution I just want some emotional support and some kind words.
Well tonight after the third argument in about a month I am in the spare room again in tears wondering if I should go ahead with the wedding, have I made a huge mistake in falling pregnant to this man, and thinking that perhaps our relationship is only good when it's good. When things get hard we struggle.
I don't know what to do or how to handle this for the rest of my pregnancy and afterwards. It doesn't help that I have always been ambivalent about having kids so am not over the moon about the baby on its own in any case. I'm so scared about being tied to someone who perhaps I'm only now seeing for what/ who they are 
if anyone has any advice or words of wisdom I would be so grateful