I've been seeing a man for a few months who hasn't told me I'm pretty/beautiful or anything like that. When I've made an effort because we're going out, he'll occasionally tell me I look nice and he says my hair looks nice when I've had it cut.
He has described other women as 'very pretty', 'stunning', 'beautiful' and 'gorgeous'. Not inappropriately, just matter of factly.
I've taken this to mean that he doesn't feel those terms apply to me - and that would be reasonable - I'm quite quirky looking; not unattractive but certainly not to everyone's taste and not attractive in any conventional sense.
Should it bother me?
I ask because it does bother me. I'd like to be with someone who looked at me and thought those things about me.
But I grew up in an emotionally abusive environment where one of the things I was repeatedly told was that I would never be loved because I wasnt pretty enough so I appreciate my perspective on this is a bit skewed and I dont know if I'm putting too much emphasis on what he thinks of me physically.
Does it matter if he doesn't think I'm pretty/attractive?