How often do you see your parents?

[ProfMcGonigle]

I’ve NC’d recently (I do every year or so).

Under an old user name, a year and a half ago, I received some wonderful MN advice and counsel about my relationship with DM.

Things were, at that point, in crisis and, while we are no longer in that crisis situation, things haven’t really improved.

We all have very different relationships with our parents and very different circumstances, but I’d like to ask:

How often do you see your parents?
Is your relationship a positive one?

I see DM every week. Every now and again I’m brave enough to cancel that week’s visit, sometimes she cancels. In general though, it’s weekly.

To be honest, I dread it! I plaster a smile on and get through it with great relief, then spend the next 6 days filled with dread again.

I know I can make a decision to reduce contact (and I might) but I’d love to know the average.

Interesting question from a PP as to how DP feel about it. Certainly mine are very concerned about what 'people ' think. I'm not entirely sure who these 'people ' are, other that their opinions are usually more important than mine. So yes, I think my DPs like being able to tell 'people ' I've been to visit, more than the actual visit!

My parents live a 4 hour drive away. I see them about every 6-8 weeks (it was about every 2-3 months before DD came along).

I speak briefly with them every 2-3 days. Mostly my mum talking with Dad saying a quick hello.

We have a very positive relationship but we’re not in each other’s pockets IYSWIM.

My parents (divorced ) both love less than a mile away from me. I see them usually once a week or once a fortnight

I only have my DF now. I see him every Saturday.

My dad is recently bereaved so I speak to my dad everyday

I see him generally every other day and if I can’t due to work then my husband will pop in and have a chat with him
My DH also takes my dad out for a pub lunch once or twice a week
At least once a month we all go out for a meal sometime with my sister and her family
When my mum was alive it was probably the same amount of time
It helps that I only live a ten min walk away from my parents though

Every day. They live 1.5 miles away, do a lot of our school runs. They're all round one in a million.