I don’t think I’m good enough for my boyfriend

[Beccacats1991]

He is really lovely most of the time but I just don’t feel good enough. He constantly makes jokes about my ‘big arse’ and comments on everything I do. I cooked for him this evening and he didn’t even like it and put the whole meal in the bin. He doesn’t like veg or onions or anything and is extremely picky so he isn’t going to like anything I cook for myself as I’m trying to loose weight cos I don’t feel good enough and I need to raise my confidence levels away but all this just kinda pushed my arse into gear. He also doesn’t like any of the gifts I buy him because he doesn’t like to be bought sprays or deodorants as he says that means he smells and he says he has expensive taste but I can’t afford to be buying anything over the top so for Valentine’s Day I’ve had to get my credit card out which I really do not want to do but I have no choice. I just don’t feel like I’m enough for him and I ask him questions like does he prefer curly hair or straight hair and he said curly hair but I don’t have curly hair :,( even though he’s 26 stone I still feel like I’m not good enough for him :,( I don’t know what to do anymore because I feel like I’m failing him :,(

Um, I'd say the problem is that you're too good for him. Rude git.

He's an abusive cunt. Give yourself the best valentines gift and drop 26 stone of dead weight dragging you down, don't get into credit card debt for the ungrateful bastard. What nice things does he do for you? I bet fuck all. You deserve to be with someone who loves you, this guy doesn't even sound like he has any affection for you. Constant criticism isn't part of a healthy relationship.

Is this for real?

He's 26 stone and he says you've got a fat arse?

He's fucking horrible, OP. You are far too good for him.

Boyfriends are supposed to make you feel good about yourself. He's rubbish

DO NOT BUY HIM ANYTHING ON YOUR CREDIT CARD
Do not get into debt for this twat. He doesn’t respect you.

Thanks for your lovely comments everybody. When he says I have a big arse or calls me plus sized he says it’s a joke so I can’t really be offended though but I really am :,(

OP, where is your self esteem? Pick yourself up and dump HIS fat arse. What a nasty knobber.

You deserve someone who cherishes you, desires you, and adores your every atom. Not a bitter negging bastard

And look up The Freedom Programme. This guy is textbook emotionally abusing you.

Ugh. He sounds like a right tosser. Get rid of the obnoxious twat.

If it was a joke it'd be funny. It's not a joke and he's an abusive prick. LTB

I know I don’t have any at the moment. I thought I did when I got into the relationship. But I’ve never felt this not good enough for anybody before :,( even when I was in a physically abusive relationship.

I was single for almost 2 years before this guy...

You posted earlier this week about this abusive man ripping up his daughters homework in front of her face.

Apparently you have been with him for a matter of months.

And now you post this?

You need to give your head a wobble and get the fuck out.

Just to let you all know I have done the freedom program and I think it is emotional abuse too but I’m not sure he realises he is hurting me....

There's an easy way to lose weight - dump him.
He is projecting his weight problem on you.
You are probably normal-sized.
If you actually are overweight,see your GP for advice.
If he is repeatedly joking about your weight knowing it offends you, he is a bully.
The best thing for you is to dump this abusive lump of useless blubber.

OP, in the nicest way possible, get the hell out of that relationship. What a horrible nasty man! Your self esteem doesn't need to take any more of a battering. Look after yourself

Ya kitty I think you are right :(

It's only a joke if everybody finds it funny. You're not laughing, are you?

Thank you everybody and thank you Mikeuniformmike I agree I need to look after myself :) x

Get rid of the cunt

If he doesn't know he's abusing you then he's thick as well as abusive. Hardly a better option.

Come on, OP. You know what he's doing. He knows too, of course. Get rid.

Get the hell away from him before it's your own daughter receiving that homework treatment or your own son thinking the way he treats you is how men are supposed to treat a girlfriend.

I need to raise my confidence levels

Yup. And that’s not going to happen while you’re with someone hell bent or ruining what little self esteem you might have left.

You clearly know this is wrong and he’s an abusive arsehole. So end it.

What are you doing? Why would you be with him?

Emotional abusers often don’t see anything wrong with their behaviour- doesn’t mean that they aren’t abusive.
Please get out OP. Surely being by yourself is better than hearing negative things about yourself (from someone whose supposed to love you) over and over again.