I don’t think I’m good enough for my boyfriend

[Beccacats1991]

He is really lovely most of the time but I just don’t feel good enough. He constantly makes jokes about my ‘big arse’ and comments on everything I do. I cooked for him this evening and he didn’t even like it and put the whole meal in the bin. He doesn’t like veg or onions or anything and is extremely picky so he isn’t going to like anything I cook for myself as I’m trying to loose weight cos I don’t feel good enough and I need to raise my confidence levels away but all this just kinda pushed my arse into gear. He also doesn’t like any of the gifts I buy him because he doesn’t like to be bought sprays or deodorants as he says that means he smells and he says he has expensive taste but I can’t afford to be buying anything over the top so for Valentine’s Day I’ve had to get my credit card out which I really do not want to do but I have no choice. I just don’t feel like I’m enough for him and I ask him questions like does he prefer curly hair or straight hair and he said curly hair but I don’t have curly hair :,( even though he’s 26 stone I still feel like I’m not good enough for him :,( I don’t know what to do anymore because I feel like I’m failing him :,(

Plenty more fish in the sea, throw this one back as he ain’t a good catch.

I have no idea how someone who is 26 fucking stone, can dish out the fat insults. What an abusive idiot

but I have no choice.

Oh, lovely, there really is always a choice. He is not being a decent human being towards you. He is being horrible. Don't use credit to buy him a present which gives him more ammunition to be so horrible.

It's really up to you to realise this, draw a boundary and see that you don't have to put up with it.

I hope you find the strength to ditch him and enjoy the rest of your life.

I’m not sure he realises he is hurting me....

It really doesn't matter. Why waste your life trying to get him to see how horrible he is. Much better to get rid and concentrate on having a great life yourself. Why would he change which he has you as a punch gag?

Not sure if anyone else has linked it but please read through this thread HERE FUSSY EATER
The OP had her eyes opened and is a wonderful example of how you handle fuckwits like this.
Take a leaf out of her book and look at this for what it is.
Abuse!!!!

Contact Womens Aid and do their Freedom Programme ASAP. You may have done it before but it clearly didn't sink in the first time.
Also have a read of the Lundy Bancroft book - Why does he do that?
It's an eye opener!!!

Choose better and want better for yourself in the future.
Do some work on yourself.
This guy has knocked your self-esteem onto the floor.
As was the plan all along!

3 months in!???
Dump his sorry arse and get out there and enjoy yourself.
Never ever let anyone put you down in any relationship.
It's not a 'joke'. Jokes are funny.
Dump and run OP!!
Do it today.

I could have written your Op, I would only plead don't let it rumble on for 30 years before you get out. It won't get better only worse until you have no self-esteem left.