Im genuinely wondering what im meant to do in this situation. My husband is from a different country to me and he has friends and family etc that like to meet up for coffee or see us. The issue I’ve got is that every single time we are together apart from a quick hello in English the whole conversation is in their language... they all speak fluent English and obviously chose to move to England, so in my opinion I shouldn’t need to learn their language however I do know some small bits and I try to learn but it’s very difficult for me. I just think it makes me look odd just sitting there uncomfortable, not knowing what they are talking about. I’ve made allowances when we are around people who cannot speak English, sometimes we go back to his country for holidays and I totally understand that they will all be speaking in their language not mine. That is fair enough but I just think in England.. they should speak in English to help me feel included. We have had this debate for years and last time I made an excuse not to go for coffee and that turned into an argument because my husband didn’t want to tell them I’m busy. He won’t prompt them to change the conversation to English as he won’t say anything to his family. He literally says that he understands but there’s nothing he can do. So I suggested that if they cannot include me in conversation then why did they specifically invite me along? What is the point in me being there, they do it in my house too, I feel a bit awkward. The funny thing is I love his family... I wish they had the care and respect for me to include me in the convo. My sister in law tells everyone that they have to speak English in front of her, shes not afraid to tell them however I wouldn’t go that far, just sometimes it would be nice to speak in English around me. I’ve considered giving up and learning their language So that I can understand them all but I find it extremely difficult I have been trying to learn for years.